An Attitude of Love

How is your love life?  Here are some children’s responses,

– Kenny, age 7 – It gives me a headache to think about that stuff. I’m just a kid. I don’t need that kind of trouble.

– Regina, age 10 – I’m not rushing into love. I’m finding fourth grade hard enough.

– Manuel, age 8 – I think you’re supposed to get shot with an arrow or something, but the rest of it isn’t supposed to be painful.

But what is love? Love is misunderstood and over used. We use the word love for just about everything: “I love BBQ!” “I love the Aggies!”  “I love my wife.”

We use “love” in referring to how we feel about a lot of things.

But besides being misunderstood, the word love has also been misinterpreted. Many today are use the word love in place of the word lust. Also, people say, “I fell in love” as if somebody tripped them and the force of gravity takes over.  Unfortunately people also say they “fell out of love.”

Love for many is an ocean of emotions. And while love does create feelings, love itself is not just a feeling. What is love as the bible describes it?  In the Greek language that the New Testament was written there are four distinct words for love.
1. “Eros” – means sexual passion, is where we get our English word, erotic.
2. “Philia” – means a bond of friendship, from which the city of Philadelphia is named, the city of brotherly love.

3.“Storge” – means affection and is the type of love we display towards family members.
4. “Agape” – means unconditional no string attached and is word use for God’s love for us and how we are to love one another

Instead of love being only a feeling, love is a choice. We must choose to love.

One of the greatest descriptions of how to love is found in 1 Corinthians chapter 13.  From a literary viewpoint some would argue that this the greatest passage Paul ever penned.

Paul lists fifteen characteristics of Christian love.

1. Love is patient. It describes the one who is “slow to anger.” It is used of God in his relationship with us. Such patience is not the sign of weakness but the sign of strength.  Like the man who is wronged and who has the power to avenge himself but will not.

No one treated Abraham Lincoln with more contempt than Edward Stanton. He called him “a low cunning clown.” He nicknamed him “the original gorilla.” Lincoln said nothing and never retaliated. Later as president, Lincoln make Mr. Stanton his war minister. When asked why, Lincoln replied, “because he is the best man for the job” and he treated him with every courtesy. The night came when the assassin’s bullet murdered Lincoln in the theatre. In the little room to which the President’s body was taken stood that same Stanton and looking down on Lincoln’s silent face, he said through his tears, “There lies the greatest ruler of men the world has ever seen.” The patience of love had conquered in the end.

2. Love is kind.  Church father Origin wrote that this means “sweet to all.” Such love is considerate and helpful to others. Kind love is gentle and mild, always ready to show compassion, especially to those in need.

3. Love does not envy. It has been said that there are really only two classes of people in this world–“those who are millionaires and those who would like to be.” There are also two kinds of envy:  one covets the possessions of other people. The second doesn’t so much want things for himself as he wishes that others had not got them at all.  Are you thankful when family members or friends gain success, get raises and do well?

4. Love is not boastful. When the loving person is himself successful he does not boast of it.  He does not brag.  Love does not parade its accomplishments. Bragging is the other side of envy. Envy wants what someone else has. Bragging is trying to make others jealous of what we have. Envy puts others down; bragging builds us up. It is ironic that, as much as most of us dislike bragging in others, we are so inclined to brag ourselves.

5.  Love is not proud. The loving person really never thinks of his own importance. William Carey, who began life as a cobbler, was one of the greatest missionaries and certainly one of the greatest linguists the world has ever seen. He translated at least parts of the Bible into no fewer than thirty-four Indian languages. When he came to India, he was regarded with dislike and contempt. At a dinner party a snob, with the idea of humiliating him, said in a tone that everyone could hear, “I suppose, Mr. Carey, you once worked as a shoe-maker.” “No, your lordship,” answered Carey, “not a shoe-maker, only a cobbler.” He did not even claim to make shoes–only to mend them.

6. Love is not rude. There are some Christians who takes a delight in being blunt and almost brutal. There is a graciousness in love which never forgets that courtesy and tact and politeness are loving.

7. Love is not self-seeking. There are those in this world who are always thinking of what life owes them and there are those who never forget what they owe to life. Most of our problems which surround us today could be avoided if we would think less of our rights and more of our duties. Whenever we start thinking about “ourselves” and “our place” we are drifting away from true love.

8. Love is not easily angered. Love never becomes infuriated with people which is a sign of defeat. When we lose our tempers, we lose everything. Kipling said that it was the test of a man if he could keep his head when everyone else was losing his. The one who is master of his temper can be master of anything.

9. Love keeps no record of wrongs. “Record” is an accounting term, the word used for entering up an item in a ledger so that it will not be forgotten. That is precisely what so many people do. One man in describing his wife to a friend exclaimed, “When we get in an argument, she always gets historical!” “You mean hysterical, the friend replied?”  “No, historical! She brings up everything I ever did wrong!” Love learns to let go.

10. Love does not delight in evil. Love finds no pleasure in anything that is wrong.  In particular, the delight that comes to most of us when we hear something derogatory about someone else. It is one of the traits of human nature that we prefer to hear of the misfortune of others rather than of their good fortune. Love finds no pleasure in gossip or bad news about someone.

11. Love rejoices with the truth. That is not as easy as it sounds. There are times when we definitely do not want the truth to prevail; and other times when truth is the last thing we want to hear. Love has no desire to veil the truth; it has nothing to hide and so is glad when the truth is revealed.

12. Love always protects. It is possible that this may mean “love can cover anything,” meaning it will never drag into the light of day the faults and mistakes of others. Love would rather mend things than publicly displaying them. It can also mean that love can bear any insult, any injury, and disappointment.

13. Love always trust. This characteristic has a twofold meaning. (1) In relation to God it means that love takes God at his word. (2) In relation to people it means that love always believes the best about other people. We make people what we believe them to be. If we show that we do not trust people, we may make them untrustworthy. If we show people that we trust them, we may make them trustworthy.

14. Love always hopes. Love looks forward, not backward. It seeks for growth and maturity in the church, knowing that God is working in every person.  It knows that failure is not the end.

15.  Love always perseveres. Love is active and committed. When we love we hold on, no matter what difficulties we face. Hardship and pain do not stop love. When we persevere, we hang on when the going gets tough. We strive to save our marriages and love our children despite disappointment and to continue to trust God despite setbacks, and to continue to serve God despite fear or sorrow. When we truly persevere in love nothing can stop us!

Dr. Karl Menninger, the famous psychiatrist and founder of the Menninger Clinic, has written that “Love is the medicine for our sick old world. If people can learn to give and receive love, they will usually recover from their physical or mental illness.”

Darrell

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Sources: Life Application Bible Commentary – Life Application Bible Commentary – 1 & 2 Corinthians.
MacArthur New Testament Commentary, The – MacArthur New Testament Commentary – 1 Corinthians.
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Replace a Critical Attitude

lord-change-my-attitudeHave you noticed that critics are all around us?
The restaurant critic
The movie critic
Monday morning quarterbacks
Political critics
It seems everyone has an opinion on everything.

I struggle with criticism and I’m sure you do as well.

Did you grow up in a home that was constantly picking on the imperfections of others and finding fault with everyone and everything? You may see criticism as a normal part of life.
Were you were criticized by friends or teachers and now that critical spirit is part of your life?
Do you find yourself caught up in criticism; not because you want to be critical, but because those you work with or socialize with those who are critical and you find yourself dragged into this attitude?
If you can relate to the above as I can, I hope you will join me and with God’s help seek to replace a critical attitude.

Let’s Define Criticism

Not all criticism is bad.
There is destructive and constructive criticism.
Constructive criticism is designed to help another person.
Hebrews 10:24 “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”
The word spur carries with it the idea of stimulating a person on to greater growth. Constructive Criticism is designed to make us better.

On Thursday’s I do my message before a group of guys who give constructive feedback. On Wednesday’s and Sunday’s our band rehearses and there is always constructive evaluation to help each person improve.

If you are on the receiving end of some constructive criticism, be gracious with the person’s advice and be honored that they care enough to seek out your best interest.
The criticism we must avoid is the destructive type that is not intended to help but to harm.

Let’s look at a definition of negative criticism
Destructive Criticism: “dwelling upon the perceived faults of others with no view to their good.” 

  • Dwelling upon – Becoming preoccupied with the fault to the point that we internalize it. “I would not do this or that or if I were in charge things would be different!” This can be fueled by our pride.  Or by pointing out the failures of others we hope to take the pain out of our own sense of failure or self condemnation.   
  • Perceived faults – We can become very critical of others and be totally wrong in our opinion, simply because we do not have all the facts.
  • No view to their good– Not wanting to help the person but desiring to tear them down in front of someone else.

Let’s look at an example of How God deals with Negative Criticism

Numbers 12:1-2, While they were at Hazeroth, Miriam and Aaron criticized Moses because he had married a Cushite woman. They said, “Has the Lord spoken only through Moses? Hasn’t he spoken through us, too?” 
Note the Critics
Verse 1 says the Miriam and Aaron criticized Moses. Miriam and Aaron are the brother and sister of Moses.  Receiving criticism from others is hard, but it is more difficult when it comes from someone who is close to you.  There is a second item to note, the text lists Miriam’s name first implying she was the primary critic in this affair and Aaron was dragged in. That happens sometimes, one person starts to criticize and soon others are dragged into the feeding frenzy. One person’s mistake can affect others.

Significant issues hide under the cover of criticism: envy, jealousy, resentment or un-forgiveness.   Which of these cause you to be critical?

Note the response to the Critics
“But the Lord heard them. (Now Moses was very humble—more humble than any other person on earth) So immediately the Lord called to Moses, Aaron, and Miriam and said, “Go out to the Tabernacle, all three of you!” So the three of them went to the Tabernacle. Then the Lord descended in the pillar of cloud and stood at the entrance of the Tabernacle. “Aaron and Miriam!” he called, and they stepped forward. And the Lord said to them, “Now listen to what I say: “If there were prophets among you, I, the Lord, would reveal myself in visions. I would speak to them in dreams. But not with my servant Moses. Of all my house, he is the one I trust. I speak to him face to face, clearly, and not in riddles! He sees the Lord as he is. So why were you not afraid to criticize my servant Moses?” The Lord was very angry with them, and he departed. Numbers 12:3-9

Main ideas:

  • God hears our criticism.
  • It’s wrong to tear down someone else made in God’s image.
  • It’s wrong to attack the person God has called to do something for Him.
  • Criticism ruins our fellowship with God and with others.

I find it interesting that Moses did not answer his critics – verse 3 describes his humility, and part of his humility was placing his trust in the One who knew he was faithful. Moses typifies the life of Christ when he was facing the cross. Peter describe our Lord’s behavior at the cross this way – When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. 1 Peter 2:23
The lesson for us when we are unjustly criticized is not to seek retribution but to trust in God who is faithful.  We are accountable to Him.
While Moses was silent, God was not. He challenged Miriam and Aaron stating that Moses was His chosen instrument at this time.

As we serve God our call is to be faithful to God and what he has called us to do and allow God to deal with the critics who do not understand what is going on in our life.

Criticism is handled
Note the remaining verses of our chapter
“As the cloud moved from above the Tabernacle, there stood Miriam, her skin as white as snow from leprosy. When Aaron saw what had happened to her, he cried out to Moses, “Oh, Please don’t punish us for this sin we have so foolishly committed. So Moses cried out to the Lord, “O God, I beg you, please heal her!” Numbers 12:10-13

Miriam is struck with leprosy. In that culture, that was a death sentence. She would be forced to leave the camp; she would be considered a outcast with no hope of a cure. In short her life was over.  It is obvious that God takes destructive criticism very seriously.
Seeing her condition Aaron repents, and pleads for mercy. Moses does not hesitate to be merciful.  “So Moses cried out to the Lord, “O God, I beg you, please heal her!” Moses was following the advice that Paul would later tell the Romans Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:19-21
God was faithful he heard the Prayer of Moses and healed Miriam, yet there were consequences to her actions, she was ostracized from the camp for a period of 7 days.

How do we avoid a critical attitude? There is only one attitude big enough to replace a critical attitude and that is the attitude of love.
Notice what Moses did that showed love:

  • He did not attack back.
  • He prayed for his attacker
  • He waited for her. “I know you are not where you need to be, but I’ll be patient and wait while God works in you.”

Love overcomes our critical attitude. Paul write’s “The Love Chapter” to a church that was facing all kinds of problems such as incestuous relationships, lawsuits among the members and drunkenness during communion to name a few.

Paul had started this church on one of his missionary journeys, so he felt responsible for these wayward converts. So the question is how would he handle this group?
Deliver a fire and brimstone sermon, “turn or burn you rotten scoundrels!”
He could have left them to their sinful ways and started a new church.
He could have simply told others about them and say this is an example of a bad church don’t be like them.
He could have sent his assistant Timothy or Titus to straighten them out, but he did none of these things. Instead he focused on a new attitude: Love.
He explains this new attitude in 1 Corinthians 13, (the love chapter.)  Most the time we read it at weddings and that is fitting because the context of the chapter is about how love changes us and our relationships.
Paul shows us that this attitude of love will transform us if we take it to heart and if we genuinely put it into practice.  And that will be the topic our next post.

Darrell

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An Attitude of Contentment

lord-change-my-attitude3 men were walking on a beach one afternoon when they came across an old lamp. The first man picked it up and began to rub it and out popped a genie. The genie said I am here to give each of you one wish each.
The first man did not hesitate he said I want a million dollars – POOF, instantly a million dollars appeared before him.
The second man said I want a mansion her on the beach – POOF, a beautiful mansion appeared right before his eyes and the genie handed him the keys.
This got the third guy really thinking about his wish, finally he stated Make me irrespirable to women – POOF the genie turned the man into a large box of chocolate!
What are you wishing for? Suppose you had three wishes; what are the items you would wish for that give you happiness & make your life more enjoyable?
We live in a culture today that tells us there is always something more, something better, something we have to have.

Today as we look at the attitude of contentment, contentment says, “I have everything I need.”  I have enough.”

What steps can we take to transform our life from an attitude of coveting to an attitude of contentment?
I believe the answer is found in 1 Timothy 6:6-8, “But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.  But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.”

First, notice in verse 6, that contentment has a partner: like Salt and Pepper, like Niki and I, like Aggies and Championships.  Oh wait, the last two do not go together!  “Godliness with contentment.”

As we compare these two qualities –it would look something like this:

  Godliness Contentment
  • deals with who I am
  • deals with what I have
  • being unsatisfied with my character in becoming like Christ
  • being satisfied with what I possess in God.

Think of it like a math equation:  Godliness + Contentment = Great Gain.

Like 2+2=4, no other substitute will work!

How about: Godliness + Prosperity = Great Gain?   No, that’s not the equation.     When we focus on material gain we inevitably worry.  The more we have, the more we have to worry about.  How am I going to protect it?  How am I going to save it?  How am I going to invest it?  How am I going to insure it?  How am I going to avoid taxes on it?  How am I going to keep from losing it?   I read a study that said insomnia increases with income.  Prosperity may not equal great gain, but great pain!

Well if too much is bad, how about Godliness + Poverty = Great Gain?  That’s not the equation either because a poor person can struggle with coveting.  It’s not about more or less it’s a heart issue.

Surely its: Godliness + Control = Great Gain.  No, because like a dog chasing its tail, we will never be able to control everything.  God will make sure of that.

Many well-meaning people think that Godliness + Family Harmony = Great Gain.  “If I have a perfect marriage or perfect family, I’ll be happy.”  Don’t put all your happiness eggs in this basket either.  There is no perfect family. At least one of your children will make sure of that!

Here are Two More Steps That Lead To Contentment

  • Look to Eternity

 1 Timothy 6:7  “For we have brought nothing into the world, so we cannot take anything out of it either”

I was present at each of my three children’s births.  It was awesome to see these new lives emerge, and I’ll never forget that they were slimly and naked!  Also, it was strange that they didn’t have any cell phones, video games or 401k, nothing!    We leave the same way- with nothing!  The Spanish proverb says, “There are no pockets in a burial suit.”  Or as American’s say, “you never see a hearse pulling a U-Haul!”   When people ask about a deceased person, “how much did they leave behind?”  The answer is always the same.  All of it!  In 50-75 years everything you have will belong to someone else.  Are you ready to stand before Christ?

We have only one life and it soon will pass, only what’s done for Christ will really last.

Think about all the grains of sand on all the beaches in the entire world representing eternity.  Then pick up one single grain of sand. This represents our life here and now.  Are you only living for right now or do you think about eternity?

  • Let enough be enough

1 Timothy 6:8  “If we have food and covering, with these we shall be content.”

If you’re an American you’re rich.  I don’t care if you’re on welfare; if you’re an American you’re rich and in the top 1% of income of the world.

I’ll never forget reading the economist Robert Heilbroner’s walk-through of what it would take to transform the average American home into the typical dwelling of the majority of the world’s inhabitants. “We would have to begin by invading our house to strip it of its furniture. Everything goes: beds, chairs, tables, TV, lamps. All that can be left for the family is a few old blankets, a kitchen table, and a wooden chair. When it comes to clothing, each member of the family may keep his oldest suit or dress and one shirt or blouse. The head of the family gets a pair of shoes, but not the wife or children.
Then comes the kitchen.  All the appliances would have to come out, and the cabinets would have to be emptied. All that can stay is a box of matches, a small bag of flour, and some sugar and salt. A few moldy potatoes, already in the garbage can, have to be taken back out, for they will provide much of that night’s meal. We can add a handful of onions and a dish of dried beans, but that’s all. Everything else goes: meat, fresh vegetables, canned goods, any crackers or candy. All gone.
But not only do we have to strip the house this way, but we also have to dismantle the bathroom, shut off the running water, and take out all electric wires. Next, we take away the house itself. The family must move into the tool shed.  Then government services are removed. No more mail delivery, no more fire department. There is a school, but it is three miles away and consists of only two classrooms. There can’t be any hospitals or doctors nearby. The nearest clinic will be ten miles away and tended by no more than a midwife.  It can be reached by bicycle, provided that the family has a bicycle, which is unlikely.  Finally, we come to money.   The family can only be allowed a cash hoard of five dollars. That is only allowed to prevent the main breadwinner of the family from experiencing the tragedy that came upon one poor laborer who went blind because he could not raise the $3.94 to be cured.

Can you be bold enough to say, “I have enough?”

I have enough.  I just need to keep reminding myself.  I struggle with contentment.  Lord change my attitude.

Darrell

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Replace a Covetous Attitude

lord-change-my-attitudeOnce upon time there were two store owners who were bitter rivals. Their stores were directly across the street from each other, and they would spend each day keeping track of each other’s business. If one got a customer, he would smile in triumph at his rival while the other was jealous. One night an angel appeared to one of the store owners in a dream and said, “I will give you anything you ask, but whatever you receive, your competitor will receive twice as much. Would you be rich? You can be very rich, but he will be twice as wealthy. Do you wish to live a long and healthy life? You can, but his life will be longer and healthier. What is your desire?” The man frowned, thought for a moment, and then said, “Here is my request: Beat me half to death!

Jealousy and coveting can lead to an ugly end.

A true story: At the end of the Civil War. John Wilkes Booth, the man who killed Abraham Lincoln in Ford’s Theater was the brother of one of America’s most famous actors, Edwin Booth. John Wilkes Booth bitterly coveted the popularity of his brother. He knew there was a growing dislike for Abraham Lincoln in certain areas of the United States. So he killed the President, thinking to become a national hero. The assassination of this beloved man started with one covetous thought.

Maybe you don’t have a raging jealousy going on, but coveting can also be thought of as “Destination Disease.”  We think, “I can’t be happy right now. I will only be happy when…
“I get a new job, I get a new car, I get a new spouse, I get a raise, I move out on my own, I get married, I get divorced, I move to a different city, I get a better church, I go on vacation, I win the lottery, I pay off all my bills, My business takes off, My business slows down, I lose weight, I gain weight, I finally finish school, etc.”
Do you ever struggle with destination disease?  I do.

What does it mean to covet something? After all is it wrong to want nice things? The psalmist said God will give us the desires of our heart. When do the desires of our heart cross the line and become the craving of coveting?

According to author James McDonald, coveting can be defined in four ways…

  1. Coveting is; wanting the wrong things:
    Power over others, an illicit relationship or something that belongs to someone else.
  2. Coveting is; wanting the right things but for the wrong reason
    Wanting to be a leader, manager or boss but not to help people but to have control or my way and my agenda over others.
  3. Coveting is wanting the right things at the wrong time.
    A young couple comes into my office for premarital counseling, they love god and one another, they are committed to one another and plan to get married in 3 months – but they want to move in together now – they want the right things commitment to God and to one another but the timing is wrong, they need to wait until they are married to live together.
  4. Coveting is wanting the right things but the wrong amount
    Take money for example, money is not a wrong thing it is part of life – money causes us a problem when we love money to the point that we become obsessed with getting more and more money to the exclusion of building relationships with God and others.

    Coveting has a strong hold on people today, yet God’s word teaches us there is a way to escape the trap of coveting and live a life of contentment.

People have always struggled with coveting.  Nowhere is that more obvious than the children of Israel and their desert experience in Numbers chapter 11.

In the last post, we saw how their attitude of complaining caused God to discipline His people, now want us to look at another attitude of the Children of God were displaying; the attitude of coveting. I want us to consider asking God to change our covetous attitude to an attitude of contentment.
We need to look at the story and then discover the application.
This account reads like a three act drama, as the drama unfolds we can see the need to focus on an attitude of contentment.

Act 1 – Giving in to Wanting More
Then the foreign rabble who were traveling with the Israelites began to crave the good things of Egypt. And the people of Israel also began to complain. “Oh, for some meat!” they exclaimed. “We remember the fish we used to eat for free in Egypt. And we had all the cucumbers, melons, leeks, onions, and garlic we wanted. But now our appetites are gone. All we ever see is this manna!” The manna looked like small coriander seeds, and it was pale yellow like gum resin. The people would go out and gather it from the ground. They made flour by grinding it with hand mills or pounding it in mortars. Then they boiled it in a pot and made it into flat cakes. These cakes tasted like pastries baked with olive oil. The manna came down on the camp with the dew during the night. Moses heard all the families standing in the doorways of their tents whining, and the Lord became extremely angry. Moses was also very aggravated.
Numbers 11:4-10
Moses introduces us to a new group of people – the foreign rabble.  These were the people who left Egypt along with the Children of Israel. Having seen the complete devastation of Egypt this group wanted nothing to do with their homeland, so they joined Israel hoping for a better future.
Scripture says, “They began to crave the good things of Egypt”.

The inference is that not only was the rabble complaining but the children of Israel were drawn into their complaining as well. They had a selective memory; they remembered the good life of Egypt. Verse 5, “We remember the fish we used to eat for free in Egypt. And we had all the cucumbers, melons, leeks, onions, and garlic we wanted.”  Really?  As slaves they did not eat at the buffet line each night!

It seems they longed for the good old days – Mark Twain said, what makes the good old days the good old days is a bad memory.
Egypt was not a good place, Egypt was a place of bondage; it was a place of bricks and mortar – yet all they could see was the good things of Egypt – the things that would fill their physical appetites.
While Egypt provided bondage, God was providing deliverance, direction, a new life, water, food and purpose.
Each evening as the dew fell God was giving his people a bread-like substance which would sustain them thru their wilderness journey. Remember the trip was to only take a couple of months and soon they would be in a land flowing with milk and honey. The only thing God’s people would have to do is gather the manna each day and cook it – it would be enough to get them through the desert.
But the manna was not enough.
Verse 6, our appetites are gone. All we ever see is this manna!” God’s provision only brought about complaints. Everyday they had enough food, but they wanted something more. That is the bottom line of a covetous attitude – I want something more than I need!

The reason God is angry for us to have a covetous attitude is that we are saying to God, “you do not give me enough – I have needs and you are not taking care of me, so I want to look someplace else to have my needs met!”  For the children of Israel they wanted their needs met back in Egypt, for us we look to have our needs met by gathering things and possessions rather than seeking God.  The Root of Covetousness is a Rejection of God’s Sufficiency.

Act 1 closes out with a sober truth – verse 10, Moses heard all the families standing in the doorways of their tents whining, and the Lord became extremely angry. Moses was also very aggravated.
Because the people were unappreciative of God’s provision – scripture tells us, “The Lord became angry”, “extremely angry” If you have every tried to do something for someone and they show little or no gratitude you can understand God’s anger at this moment.
Act 2 – Getting what you do not want
Then the Lord said to Moses…”Say to the people, ‘Purify yourselves, for tomorrow you will have meat to eat. You were whining, and the Lord heard you when you cried, “Oh, for some meat! We were better off in Egypt!” Now the Lord will give you meat, and you will have to eat it. And it won’t be for just a day or two, or for five or ten or even twenty. You will eat it for a whole month until you gag and are sick of it. For you have rejected the Lord, who is here among you, and you have whined to him, saying, “Why did we ever leave Egypt?” Numbers 11:16-20
Their request brought a dangerous reply.
Basically God said, “you want meat – I will give you meat, not just one day or two but you will have meat for 30 days. You will become sick of meat.”

He gave them what they wanted but it did not meet their need
Psalm 106 is a companion passage for this event listen to what verse 15 says, He gave them exactly what they asked for, but along with it they got an empty heart. Psalm 106:15
With God we can be satisfied with what he provides for us but if we walk away from God’s provision we soon find ourselves empty.   We may end up loathing what we had to have. 

Nothing is essential, but God.
Things were never designed to take God’s place. When we covet something and make it essential – “I have got to have it”, we are saying to God there is something more than what you can provide.
Maybe today there is something you are putting ahead of God…
A Relationship
A Financial Goal
A Specific Dream for your future
I have and continue to struggle with thinking that my goals must be God’s.  I want to challenge us to seek first His Kingdom, before we seek out our own desires.

Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 34:7  Israel’s problem was they wanted their desires but they did not want to delight in the Lord, may that not be said of us.

Act 3 – Consequences to Getting What We Want
Now for the rest of the story:
The Lord sent a wind that brought quail from the sea and let them fall all around the camp. For miles in every direction there were quail flying about three feet above the ground. So the people went out and caught quail all that day and throughout the night and all the next day, too. No one gathered less than fifty bushels! They spread the quail all around the camp to dry. But while they were gorging themselves on the meat—while it was still in their mouths—the anger of the Lord blazed against the people, and he struck them with a severe plague. So that place was called Kibroth-hattaavah (which means “graves of gluttony”) because there they buried the people who had craved meat from Egypt. Numbers 11:31-34
The Lord was true to His Word.
He sent the quail – man, did he send the quail. For 36 hours the people gathered the quail – no one gathered less than 50 bushels.  A bushel of tomatoes or corn weighs about 50 pounds, so 50 bushels is a lot of meat!
Then came the ugly result of their covetousness:
Their punishment came in two forms…
1. Loss of Discernment – One the problems that comes with a covetous attitude is that we lose our capacity for discerning. The Children of Israel had so much quail, scripture says they gorged themselves. They actually lost the ability to know when they had had enough. Instead of controlling their wants their wants were controlling them. When you live a life of coveting you too can lose your discernment, you begin to want a possession or a goal more than life itself and soon you too are controlled by something rather than you having the self-control which is a fruit of the spirit.
2. Loss of their life – God intervened and caused a severe plague to come upon the people and many people died. Interesting Israel wanted to go back to Egypt for the best of everything. But God sent a plague reminded them that all that was in Egypt was destruction and plagues. If we are guilty of coveting we probably will not loose our life in such a dramatic fashion as the children of Israel did in the wilderness, but Jesus asked his followers a pertinent question that applies to us today when wit comes to handling a covetous attitude. What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit his very self? Luke 9:25

The example of Israel rejecting God and choosing something else is a tragic story of coveting.  The question we need to ask ourselves today is, “what steps can we take to transform our life from an attitude of coveting to an attitude of contentment?   We will look at how to be content in the next post.

Darrell

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