Philippians – Background Information

Hope AgainAUTHOR:  Paul: apostle of Christ, courageous missionary, gifted teacher, articulate apologist, and Christian statesman.

Having received an excellent secular and religious education (Acts 22:3), Paul was destined for leadership in Jerusalem Judaism. We first read of Paul in Acts at the stoning of Stephen, a courageous and outspoken deacon in the Jerusalem church. Paul collected the coats of the executioners (Acts 7:58) and approved of Stephen’s death (Acts 8:1). Soon afterward, Paul persecuted followers of Christ, capturing them and throwing them into prison (Acts 8:3; 22:4; Galatians 1:13-14). A Pharisee and influential member of the Jewish ruling council (the Sanhedrin), he voted to have these followers of “the Way” put to death (Acts 26:5, 10). As a zealous defender of the faith, Paul found great favor among the religious establishment. But his fast track took a U-turn on the road to Damascus, where he was confronted by the Lord (Acts 9:1-6; 22:5-10; 26:12-18).

Following his conversion, Paul immediately began to publicly proclaim Jesus as the Son of God, and he used his tremendous, now Spirit-filled, intellect to prove Jesus to be the Messiah (Acts 9:22). This enraged the Jewish leaders, Paul’s former compatriots, causing them to conspire to kill him (Acts 9:23). Paul escaped and went to Arabia, where he probably studied the Word and preached to the Gentiles (Galatians 1:15-17). Three years later, he traveled to Jerusalem with his “sponsor,” Barnabas (Acts 9:27). When Grecian Jews threatened to kill him there, Paul returned to his hometown of Tarsus (Acts 9:30). Soon Barnabas brought Paul to Antioch where they ministered together for a year in the church there (Acts 11:25-26).

In approximately a.d. 46, the believers in Antioch commissioned Barnabas and Paul to take the gospel to both Jews and Gentiles in other lands (Acts 13:1-3). Stops on this first missionary journey included Paphos (on Cyprus), Perga, Attalia, Pisidian Antioch, Iconium, Lystra, and Derbe (Acts 13:4-14:28). When word came to Jerusalem of the ministry among the Gentiles, a controversy arose over whether non-Jewish converts had to be circumcised and had to obey the law of Moses (Acts 15:1). So Paul and Barnabas, along with other believers, were sent to Jerusalem to see the apostles and elders in order to settle the dispute (Acts 15:2-4). After hearing their testimony, the Jerusalem Council affirmed the ministry to the Gentiles (Acts 15:12-35).

1b 2nd Missionary JourneyA few months later, in approximately a.d. 50, Paul and Barnabas discussed a second trip, to visit the churches they had established on their first missionary journey (Acts 15:36). But because of a disagreement over Mark, they went separate ways: Barnabas and Mark sailed for Cyprus, while Paul and Silas went through Syria and Cilicia (Acts 15:37-41). On this trip, Paul and Silas visited the believers at Derbe, Lystra, and Iconium. Then, passing through the region of Phrygia and Galatia, they journeyed to Troas. There, through a vision, God told Paul to travel to Macedonia (Acts 16:1-10). Obeying the Holy Spirit, Paul and Silas sailed to Samothrace and then to Neapolis. From there they traveled to Philippi, where they ministered for several days (Acts 16:11-40). Upon leaving Philippi, Paul and Silas traveled through Amphipolis and Apollonia to Thessalonica. Next they went to Berea, and then to Athens and Corinth, where they stayed for some time (Acts 17:1-18:18). Leaving Macedonia, they traveled to Ephesus. Then they sailed to Caesarea and made their way back to Antioch.

SETTING

Written from prison in Rome in approximately a.d. 61 Paul wanted to get to Rome (Acts 19:21), not only to teach and fellowship with the believers there (Romans 1:8-13), but also because Rome stood as the center of the civilized world. It was a strategic city for the spread of the gospel. To reach the Roman Empire, the gospel had to reach Rome.

In God’s sovereign plan, Paul did sail to Rome, but not as a prominent citizen, missionary statesman, or even itinerant preacher. He arrived, rather, as a prisoner, in chains (Acts 28:11-16). Even as a prisoner, however, Paul was free to teach, preach, and write (Acts 28:17-31). During these years of house arrest, Paul wrote what have come to be known as the “Prison Epistles”—Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, and Philemon.

It is clear that Paul was a Roman prisoner when he wrote this letter because of his words in 1:12-17. He wrote of being “in chains” (1:13, 17) and of being a witness for Christ to the “whole palace guard” (1:13 niv).

Some have surmised that Paul wrote this letter to the Philippians during his imprisonment in Caesarea (Acts 23:23-26:32). After all, Paul was imprisoned there for about two years (a.d. 57-59), interrupted by hearings before Felix, Festus, and Agrippa. He would have had the freedom and the time to write. The uncertain and menacing situation in Caesarea seems to fit Paul’s indication that death was an imminent possibility (1:20-23, 30; 2:17). And references to a “palace guard” (niv) or “praetorian guard” (rsv) could fit this location.

AUDIENCE :  The believers in Philippi

3b Excavations of PhilippiThe Macedonian (northern Greece today) city of Philippi was named after Philip of Macedon (the father of Alexander the Great). Surrounded by mountains and close to the sea, Philippi became a strategic city in the Greek empire. In 167 b.c. it became part of the Roman Empire, but it did not achieve real importance until after 31 b.c. when Octavian defeated Antony at the battle of Actium. After that decisive battle, Philippi received a number of Italian colonists who had favored Antony and had been dispossessed of their property. The colony was then renamed Colonia Iulia Philippensis to honor Julius Caesar. Later, in 27 b.c., when Octavian was designated Augustus, the colony’s name was changed again to Colonia Augusta Iulia (Victrix) Philippensium, equating the cause of Augustus with that of Caesar. At that time, Philippi was given the right to the Law of Italy together with many rights and privileges, including immunity from taxation. The residents of Philippi were very conscious and proud of their Roman citizenship and heritage (see Acts 16:20-21). Philippi also boasted a fine school of medicine.

2b Egnatian WayPaul visited Philippi on his second missionary journey, in a.d. 51, about ten years previous to this letter. By the time of Paul’s visit, Philippi had become a thriving commercial center because of its strategic location as the first city on the Egnatian Way, an important ancient highway linking the Aegean and Adriatic Seas. Travelers to Rome would cross the Adriatic and then continue up to Rome on the Appian Way. Thus, Philippi was the gateway to the East. Although thoroughly colonized by the Romans after 31 b.c., Philippi was still more Greek in culture than Roman. Luke refers to Philippi as “a Roman colony and the leading city of that district of Macedonia” (Acts 16:12 niv). Although Philippi was not the capital city of the region (subprovince of Macedonia), it certainly was the “leading city.” Luke’s statement also reflects civic pride in his hometown.

The church at Philippi in ancient Macedonia was the first European church founded by Paul. Thus, it represents the first major penetration of the gospel into Gentile territory (see Philippians 4:14-15).

Acts 16:9-40 tells how the church began. On the second missionary journey in about a.d. 51, prevented by the Holy Spirit from preaching in Asia and in Bythynia, Paul and Silas traveled to Troas, the farthest Asian port on the Aegean Sea. While there, God spoke to Paul through a vision, telling him to take the gospel to Europe. In this vision, a Greek man begged, “Come over to Macedonia and help us” (Acts 16:9 niv). Immediately, Paul and his traveling companions set sail for Samothrace and Neapolis, continuing on to Philippi.

5b Gangitus RiverIn every city, Paul and his party would go to the synagogue to share the gospel with the Jews. So on their first Sabbath in Philippi, Paul and Silas probably looked for a synagogue. Instead, they found a group of women who had gathered outside the city on the banks of a river. The fact that Philippi had no synagogue indicates that there were few Jews in that city. Therefore, from its inception, the church at Philippi consisted mainly of Gentiles. Acts 16:14-34 tells of two of the first converts in Philippi: Lydia, a businesswoman who may have been a Jew or a Jewish proselyte; and a Roman jailer. The response of these three provided clear demonstration that God’s Good News was for all classes, sexes, races, and nationalities.

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Luke also mentions that when Lydia responded to Paul’s message, so did the members of her household (Acts 16:15). The same was true for the jailer—his family responded with him (Acts 16:34). No other specific converts are mentioned in this account in Acts, but the chapter concludes with: “After leaving the prison they [Paul and Silas] went to Lydia’s home; and when they had seen and encouraged the brothers and sisters, they departed” (Acts 16:40 nrsv). “Brothers and sisters” seems to indicate that a small but vital group of believers had been forged. Clement, Euodia, and Syntyche may have been won to Christ during this time (see 4:2-3).

When Paul and Silas departed from Philippi, they left Luke there, in his hometown, to carry on the ministry. A few years later, at the end of his third missionary trip, Paul visited Philippi prior to spending the winter in Corinth. When Paul wrote this epistle, the church in Philippi was thriving, and he felt very close to the believers there.

OCCASION AND PURPOSE FOR WRITING

To thank the Philippians for their gift and to strengthen the believers in their faith

This is a very personal epistle. It is obvious from Paul’s opening comments that he enjoyed a close friendship with the Philippian believers: “I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now” (1:3-5 niv). During their visit to Philippi, Paul and Silas had witnessed immediate and dramatic response to their message. And despite the fact that they were attacked and imprisoned, they had seen the church begin and then grow into a strong core of believers (Acts 16:40). During the course of Paul’s ministry, the Philippian believers had continually come to his assistance through their gifts (4:15-18). At this time, nearly ten years later, the Philippians had again sent a gift to Paul to help him in his time of need: “I rejoice greatly in the Lord that at last you have renewed your concern for me. . . . It was good of you to share in my troubles” (4:10, 14 niv). Perhaps their donated funds were helping to pay for the rented house to which Paul was confined (Acts 28:30). In response to this gift and to their relationship over the years, Paul wrote to express his deep appreciation for their love, faithfulness, and generosity.

Paul also took the opportunity of this letter to deal with important issues in the church. He had heard of divisive rivalry and selfish ambition (2:3-4), so he gave strong counsel and even named names (4:2). Paul knew that the Judaizers could be a problem, so he gave clear instructions to avoid those men (3:2-3). He also warned of those who would go to the opposite extreme and live totally without the law or any personal discipline (3:17-19). None of these issues were full-blown problems that were threatening the life of the church, but Paul knew their destructive pattern. So he warned his beloved Christian brothers and sisters, encouraging and challenging them to continue to stand strong and united and to live for Christ (1:27; 4:1, 4-9).

Paul’s sensitivity to the needs at Philippi stands as a great example. He didn’t wait for a crisis; instead, he confronted potential problems early, before they could fester and infect the whole body. When we see a fellow believer begin to struggle or stray, we should follow Paul’s example and lovingly confront that person, urging him or her to stay on track.

MESSAGE

Joy (1:3-6, 12-26; 2:1-4, 17-18; 3:1; 4:4-13). Although Paul had suffered much for the cause of Christ and was writing this letter as a prisoner of Rome, still he was filled with joy because of what God had done for him, because of his hope in God’s plan for the future, and because of the faithfulness of the Philippian believers. Paul knew that his beloved brothers and sisters in Christ would be tempted and tested, so he urged them to stay strong in their faith, to be content, and to “rejoice in the Lord always” (4:4 niv). Regardless of the circumstances, believers can have profound contentment, serenity, and peace. This joy comes from knowing Christ personally, depending on his strength, and trusting in his plan for our lives.

Importance for Today. Far from content, people today truly believe that they need every new product, toy, or appliance. Or they think that they will find happiness and personal fulfillment through relationships, travel, adventure, or something else. Thus, most people are discontent and continually seeking meaning and peace. But true, lasting contentment comes only through knowing Christ. With sins forgiven, our future secure, and our lives in God’s control, we can be content . . . and have joy. Yes, we can have joy, even in hardship. Joy does not come from outward circumstances but from inward strength.

In addition to discontent, Paul highlights other joy stealers: selfish ambition (1:17; 2:3), complaining and arguing (2:14), self-centeredness (2:21), hedonism (3:18-19), anxiety (4:6), and bad thoughts (4:8). What steals your joy?

Rely on Christ within you to give you joy, not on what you own, who you know, or what you experience.

Humility (1:15-18; 2:5-11; 3:7-14). If anyone had the right to boast, it was Paul. Yet he continued to lay aside personal ambition and glory in order to know Christ (3:7-11) and to glorify him (3:12-14). Paul knew that Jesus had left glory to come to earth in order to live as a man and to die on the cross. Paul held up Jesus as the example to follow, urging the Philippians to humble themselves as Christ had done.

Jesus showed true humility when he laid aside his rights and privileges as God to become a human being (2:5-11). He poured out his life to pay the penalty that we deserve. Laying aside self-interest is essential to being Christlike.

Importance for Today. We naturally worry about ourselves first, making sure that we are comfortable and that we get the credit and glory we deserve. But as Christ’s representatives, we should live as he would. This means putting others first and renouncing personal recognition. It also means serving others and looking out for their best interests. When we give up our self-interest, we can serve the Lord with joy, love, and kindness. True humility is a by-product of seeing ourselves from Christ’s perspective and recognizing that we are nothing without him.

What can you do to see yourself and the world from Christ’s point of view? What can you do to give your life for others?

Self-Sacrifice (1:15-26; 2:4, 17, 25-30; 3:7-14; 4:14-19). Christ suffered and died so that all who believe might have eternal life. Following Christ’s example, with courage and faithfulness, Paul sacrificed himself for the ministry, taking every chance to tell others God’s Good News, preaching and teaching even while in prison. For Paul, living meant opportunities for serving the Lord, but dying would mean going to live with the Lord (1:20-24). So Paul lived with his goal always before him, motivating him to forget the past and press on to win the prize (3:13-14).

Importance for Today. “Sacrifice” seems like a dirty word these days. Instead, people want to indulge themselves and do everything they can to have a comfortable and easy life. Unfortunately, this cultural attitude can carry into the church. For example, many believers are more concerned about not having padded pews than the fact that people are headed for hell. But reaching people for Christ, helping those in need, and changing our world will involve personal sacrifice. Christ gives us the power to do that. We must follow the example of Jesus and of godly leaders like Paul who demonstrate self-denying concern for others.

What will it take—what sacrifices will you have to make—for you to be an effective witness for Christ in your neighborhood? at work? What will it take for your church to make a difference for Christ in your community?

Unity (1:15-18, 27-30; 2:1-4, 14-16; 4:2-3). In every church, in every generation, controversial issues, personality conflicts, and other divisive issues arise. The tendency toward arguments and division intensifies during hard times, when people can turn against each other. Although the church at Philippi was strong, it was not immune to these problems and, in fact, had experienced some internal conflicts. Paul encouraged the Philippians to get along, agree with one another, stop complaining, and work together.

Importance for Today. Christians should contend against their common enemy—Satan and his work in the world—and not against each other. We need all our resources, focus, and energy for the battle. When we are unified in love, Christ works through us, and we can make a difference for him. We need to keep before us the ideals of teamwork, consideration of others, and unselfishness.

What tends to break your unity with other believers? What issues threaten to divide your church? Keep your focus on Christ and his mission in the world; don’t be sidetracked by petty jealousies, competition, hurt feelings, or minor irritations. Work together with your brothers and sisters in Christ to make a difference in the world.

Christian Living (1:6, 9-11, 21-29; 2:12-13; 3:12-21; 4:4-13). Paul could not stay in Philippi, teaching the new believers, encouraging them to live for Christ, and holding them accountable. When he was with the Philippians, they were careful to obey the Lord (2:12) because they were aware of Paul’s powerful example and strong encouragement. But now, in his absence, they should be even more careful to live the Christian life (work out their own salvation—2:12). They could be confident that God was with them and in them, changing them from the inside out (2:13). Certainly God would complete his good work in them (1:6).

Paul also explained the steps these believers could take to live for Christ: be unified with other Christians (1:27-30), remember Christ’s work on the cross (2:5-11), rejoice in God’s work for them and in them (3:1), keep focused on the goal (3:12-14), guard their thoughts (4:8-9), be content with what they have (4:10-13), and help those in need (4:14-19).

Importance for Today. In this day of media evangelists, celebrity Bible teachers, and articulate preachers, it can be easy to depend on others for our spiritual nourishment and motivation. Yet the Christian life always depends on the relationship an individual believer has with the Lord Jesus. Instead of relying on others for our “faith,” we must depend on Christ and the Holy Spirit working within us. And instead of expecting growth to happen because we have a strong Christian environment, we must keep our focus on Christ, discipline ourselves to pray and to read the Bible, and apply God’s Word to our lives.

On whom do you depend for your motivation to live for Christ? Where do you find your spiritual nourishment? Christian living depends on Christ living in you and you then living in obedience to him.

For more about the series, Hope Again or watch messages go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

Source:  Life Application Bible Commentary – Philippians, Colossians, & Philemon.

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Hope Again

Hope AgainHas life got you down?  Are you in a place you don’t want to be?  Join us and find hope in your troubled time.  Sitting in a dark Roman prison cell, Paul writes of hope and joy.  We’ll discover solid biblical principles from the New Testament book of Philippians to help us:  Enjoy the People in our Lives, Dump Discouragement, Conquer the Urge to Complain, Gain Confidence, and Reduce Stress. No matter where you are, you can have Hope Again.

 Picture a baby, rested, fed, and lying in his mother’s arms. Looking down with unspeakable love into those precious eyes, Mommy begins to talk to her son and gently strokes his cheek, evoking a sudden smile.

Or imagine a two best friends recalling all the great times they have shared in the past year. One story in particular leads to sudden giggling then both are soon laughing hysterically.

That’s joy, contentment, security, and hope for those relationships to continue grow.

But joy and hope can also be discovered in the pain and struggles of life—in a hospital bed, knowing that the Lord stands near; at the unemployment office, knowing that God will provide for all your needs and at a funeral, knowing, through tears, that your loved one now lives with God. True hope runs deep and strong, flowing from confident assurance in God’s loving control. Regardless of your life’s situation, you can find hope and joy in Christ.

Hope dominates the to the believers at Philippi.  The verses radiate the positive, triumphant message that because of Christ’s work for us and because of God’s plan for us we can have lasting hope.  As we discover Paul’s letter from prison to his beloved friends in Philippi, you will realize all that you possess in Christ, and find your hope in him.

On a personal note, this is one of my favorite books in the bible, which also contains my favorite verse. In high school when I began reading my bible on my own, I found the little book of Philippians with only 4 chapters to be so meaningful!  I highlighted almost every line.  Every time I would come back to it, it was full of verses that screamed out to me “Memorize me”! “Meditate on me!” “Apply me to your life!”  I have multiple verses memorized from each chapter & I hope you can too!  When I mentioned to Niki, that we would be studying Philippians she said, “if I were to memorize one book of the bible this one would be it.”

I’m so excited to begin a 6-week journey through this little book with all of you. Perhaps you’ve had a quick read through Philippians, or perhaps you’ve latched on to some key verses that have greatly impacted you or perhaps you have never encountered the powerful spiritual truth in this letter. However, much exposure you’ve had to it – I pray that God will use this study to bring lasting change to your everyday experience, and that you will experience for yourself the true hope found in this book.

I hope you can join us Sunday,

Darrell

www.RidgeFellowship.com

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Drama Free Social Media – Part 2

businesscard-3.5inx2in-h-frontHow do we remove the veil?

There are Three Steps

  1. Acknowledge My Veil

In  2 Corinthians 3:15 Paul reminds us, “a veil covers their hearts.”

What starts out as a superficial covering becomes a spiritual condition. Behind the veil its dark, there are secrets, its lonely.  We ache and wonder does anyone care about me?  We turn to drugs or pornography for some comfort but there is none to be found.  We are not honest with ourselves or with others.  It’s time to acknowledge, I’ve been hiding behind a veil.

Its time to stop the charade when someone asks,  “How you doing?”  “Oh, we’re fine.”  “How’s your marriage?”  “Oh, it’s fine.”  “How are you doing in relationship with God?”  “Oh, it’s going great.”  And the reality is, there are so many parts of you that you have not shared in months or years.  You’ve got the veil on.  You’re playing the part.  You’re playing the role.  You’re play-acting.  What is that?  Jesus would call it hypocrisy.  The veil that covers the face eventually covers the heart.  Acknowledge the veil.

Some people are so used to showing the fake self, they don’t even know who the real self is anymore, because “I’m this person for that group of people, and this person for that group of people, and this person for that group of people.”  And then we’re just living for likes.  “Do you like the “me” I’m showing you?”  “Do you like this picture?”  “Did you like the caption?”  “Do you like my shirt?”  “Do you like these earrings?”  “Do you like my new hair?”  “Did you like my car?”  “Do you think my kids are good enough?

And all this time, we’re living for likes, and we are longing for love.  Because until we show who we really are, until we know and are fully known, we’re always going to be longing for something more.   Here’s the second step.

  1. Develop Face to Face Relationships and be Authentic

When we’re always filtered, when we’re always showing our best side, we may impress people some.  They might be impressed.  But we’re not connecting.  The difference is this – don’t miss this.  We connect with people through our weaknesses.  We may impress them with our strengths, but we connect through our weaknesses.

You’ve done this before.  You’ve met somebody, and you think, “They’re so perfect, I don’t like them at all. They have everything together. Then you get to know them, and you realize, “Oh, they struggle here, and they’re not perfect. I like them!”  Why?   Because we connect through weaknesses.

So often, we’re trying to impress the world with, “Here’s the ‘me’ I want you to see,” and yet, we’re longing for something more, because we may impress people with our strengths, but we connect through our weaknesses.  This happens best through face to face relationships

We cannot state how important it is to have face to face relationships, to learn, pray, share and encourage one another.   We had an entire message in February called “Friends with Benefits.”  We talked about the impact of face to face relationships.  The fact that you’re presence is powerful. Here’s a link to that post.  Face to face relationships are the best place to remove the veil.  We encourage all attenders and members to be in a GROWTH GROUP!    Why?  Because if you don’t remove the veil face-to-face sometimes, you’re always going to be longing for something more.  We put the veil on, we post something, and we secretly hope, “Did you like it?  Did you like it?  Did you affirm me?  Did you affirm me?”  And yet, we still feel empty, because we’re not being totally real with anybody, and vulnerable in the way God wants us to be, and the veil continues to stay on.

  1. Let Jesus Affirm Me.  Only Christ can remove the veil.

2 Corinthians 3:16: “Whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away.”

If you keep turning to everyone and everything else for affirmation you still won’t have the affirmation you desire. But when you turn to Christ, you don’t even have to remove the veil, because He does it for you.  When you turn to the Lord, the veil is taken away.

As you KNOW Christ…  you’re not getting your approval from their likes, but you’re getting it from His love!

You are no longer living for the approval of people, but you are living from the approval of God!  You recognize, I am acceptable to God, through Jesus.  I am the righteousness of God, in Christ.  He accepts me! He loves me! He forgives me! He gives me peace and purpose!

When I realize that He is all I have, suddenly I realize that He is all I need. I don’t need approval from someone else, because I’ve got approval from Him!  Dwelling within me is the same Spirit that raised Christ from the grave.

My identity is NOT in how many followers I have.  My identity is in WHO I am following, and I am following the Lord Jesus Christ.   I have no need of the veil.  The veil can be taken away.

2 Corinthians 3: 17 says this: “17 …Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.  I’m free from guilt and condemnation. I’m free to be me!  I’m free to be the me God created me to be!

      And then, when we do that, guess what happens?  18We are transformed, not into the person that we think they want us to be, but we are “transformed into His image, with ever-increasing glory.”

How do we get unveiled?  When you turn to the Lord, the veil is taken away, “and we … with unveiled faces” are being transformed into the image of Christ, not for the approval of people, but for the glory of God, because we are not called to elevate self, but to die to self, and follow Jesus, to give Him glory in all that we do.  And that’s how we follow Jesus in a social media, selfie centered world.  It’s time to turn to the Lord.

If you want true authenticity from Christ, your identity is in Him and Him alone, you want Him to remove the veil that you can be, truly, who He created you to be, loving and being loved as you really are.

Let me pray for us:  God thank you that where Your Spirit is, there is freedom.  I pray for freedom from the bondage of who’s following “me,” and who liked “my” pic, and who commented, and who retweeted.  God, we thank You that You’ve got a life much deeper and much more meaningful than that, that our identity is not in the approval of others, but our identity comes from the approval of Your Son Jesus. God, help us to turn to You and live for you. We know you will remove the veil.  Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. Amen

Darrell

www.RidgeFellowship.com

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Drama Free Social Media – Part 1

businesscard-3.5inx2in-h-frontAccording to Google, we are now checking our phones 100 billion times a day!  Then perhaps more surprising, 93 million selfies are taken each day. Hate the duck face all you want, we know you’re pouting those lips and posting it to Instagram.

What’s more, “selfie” became the Oxford English Dictionary’s “word of the year” in 2013.

Did you know that young women aged 16 to 25 years old spend an average of five hours a week taking selfies?[i]

If you’re younger, it may be difficult for you to understand, but my generation, growing up in the 80’s we would not have ever turned a camera on ourselves.  We actually hated getting our picture taken.

The worst day of school for me was picture day!  It was the only day I’d ever bring a brush, not a comb and try to tame my buffalo hair-do into controlled fluff.   There was only one shot.  And when they said, “One, two, three,” it didn’t matter if I were in a half smile or had spinach in my teeth.    They’d take the picture, and then I wouldn’t even know what it looked like, for weeks, or even a couple of months.  If I didn’t get money from my parents to buy the stupid little packet, I wouldn’t know what it looked like until it came out in the yearbook. In 6th grade, I had no idea it was picture day and was wearing my gym clothes, a ratty sweaty grey shirt with my name scribbled on the front. That picture defined my entire sixth-grade year.  It was horrible.

Things have massively changed.  Today, we can take a picture of ourselves, and put a filter on it.  We can change the color, the lighting, the shading, make it black and white, soften it, brighten it, take away red-eye.  You can edit and remove a double chin.  If you’ve got a zit back when we were kids, you had to pop it and hope for the best in a picture!  Today we can edit it out. Here is the filtered me I want you to see.”

I need to acknowledge that today’s Social Media and Technology are blessing for relationships.  But at the same time, there are some challenges we need to be aware of.

I want to highlight a few then focus on one specific in this post.

How Is Social Media Changing Relationships?

 We have the power to do friendships on our own terms  We decide to accept or reject people with a click of a button!  We can hit “like” or not. Is this post worthy of a keystroke?

The term “selfie” is new and changing relationships. For more, see the last post, see “Are Selfies Ruining Your Relationships?[ii] They are “Scientifically proven to distance you from others[iii]

Social media is a major cause of discontentment. All we see is people at their best: winning an iron man, at a party, at the lake, on vacation, having fun!  We think – I’m missing out! I’m a loser, I have no life compared to all my friends!

Here’s where I will spend some time today:

 We want to filter all communication.

Let’s say the phone rings, back when I was growing up (in the 80’s), I actually didn’t know who was on the other side, and to find out who was on the other side, you actually had to pick up the call.

Today when the phone rings we have the blessing, or the curse, of being able to see who it is, decide if we want to talk, send it to voice mail, listen to the voice mail, and then decide how to respond. With a text or at all?  Because we stay in control, we desire to filter communication and call the shots.

This is not just a modern-day problem.  It’s been a problem that’s been going on since the beginning of time.

In Genesis 3 when Adam and Eve did their own thing and turned from God. The Bible says that they were ashamed because they were naked, They covered themselves with fig leaves, and they were afraid, so they hid.(Gen. 3:7-9).  They also hid behind excuses and blame.  They used filters: “I don’t want you to see the real me.”  We all do this, whether in social media, or in other ways.

In 2 Corinthians 3:13-18  Paul refers back to a story from the Old Testament, in Exodus 34 that illustrates this.

Paul explains when Moses ascended to the top of Mount Sinai, received the Ten Commandments from God, and came down the mountain, that his face was actually glowing!  The glory of God was on his face.  So Moses put on a veil or a filter when talking with the people.  Wow.

I always thought, “He did that to protect people from seeing the glow, the brightness was a distraction.  But actually Paul explains that he put on the veil to keep them from seeing that the glory was actually fading away.  He put a filter over his face so they would not see the truth. God’s glory was fading from his face.  Moses was trying to cover up the fact that his glow was fading. Not good for a leader. “We are watching you get dull!”  So he did like many leaders do including me, preferring for others to see our strengths as we try to hide or cover our weakness.

 2 Corinthians 3:13-18  We are not like Moses, who would put a veil over his face to prevent the Israelites from seeing the end of what was passing away. 14 But their minds were made dull, for to this day the same veil remains when the old covenant is read. It has not been removed, because only in Christ is it taken away. 15 Even to this day when Moses is read, a veil covers their hearts. 16 But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. 17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. 18 And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.

Paul was showing the Corinthians that Christ; and the New Covenant was superior to the Old Covenant.  Whenever the Old Covenant is read in the synagogues, the unbelieving Jewish people cannot see the truth because a veil is there.  A veil was covering their eyes from seeing the truth of who Christ is.  As we habitually become so used to living behind a veil, filtering everything, the veil actually keeps us all from the truth and from Christ.

 What we all need is to live UNVEILED. 

The problem is we like our veil.   We’ve learned, and become very skilled at, how to filter our lives, and show other people the “me” that we want them to see.

By nature, when we are insecure, when we don’t feel good about ourselves or when we sin, rather than confessing our sin as the first response, by nature, we tend to hide and to put veils on to filter or hide our lives.

What veil are you wearing?  What image are you trying to portray in your life that you’re not?

Social media trains us to put our best self out there.  For example, you may portray yourself as, “Super Mom.”  “Hey, look, here’s a picture of my kids-with-matching-back packs and lunchboxes. Here’s how I decorated their room! Here’s me at dance with my kids when, in reality, you feel guilty because you’re overwhelmed, overworked.  You feel like you don’t have any friends or a life.  You feel like you’re not a very good mother.  But for the world, here’s “Super Mom!”

Or you might be the dad at the park: “Here’s me” click! “With my kid at the park.  Look, I’m pushing my kid on a swing.  I’m Dad of the Year.  I’m a great dad.” When, in reality, you feel like a failure as a dad, because your kids are really an interruption to you.  You’re not always engaged with them, you work too much, and when you’re with them, you’re not really with them because your mind is somewhere else.  But, hey, “Here’s the dad I want you to see.”

You might be “Workout- Girl” – “Here’s my protein shake.  I’m getting in shape.”  The truth is, you just ate a whole bag of cookies, and you worship regularly at the altar of Blue Bell.  “But for all to see, here’s my protein shake!  I’m getting in shape.”

“Hey, I’m a Spiritual Giant!”  “Here’s my Bible open to Leviticus chapter 14 with my cup of coffee. I’m so spiritual,” when, in reality, in the back of your mind, there is an ongoing secret sin that you have still not confessed to anybody, and it haunts you, and it makes you crazy.  But, “Hey, here’s the spiritual giant!”

It might be the obligatory anniversary picture: “Here I am with my sweety, best friends forever.  I love my honey bunnie!  We have a great marriage,” when, in reality, you don’t have a good marriage, at all.  But here’s the “me” I want you to see.

Why do we do this?  At its core is a fear of showing the real me.

Have you noticed some people post a lot if negativity and hurtful things?  They spew conflict, anger and emotionally vomit out there for all to see.   What’s behind the veil?  Behind all that griping and complaining is hurt.   “Does anyone care?”  “If I keep you at a distance, maybe you won’t hurt me.”

How about this? Have you ever been with someone and all they do is keep checking their phone?  There is a new term called “Phubbing” Phone snubbing. What’s behind the veil?  It’s fear. “I don’t know how to have real communication.  I fear silence or authenticity. And when I get uncomfortable, I’ll turn to what I feel more comfortable with, my phone.”     It’s a veil.

In the next post we’ll examine, How to remove the veil.

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[i] http://www.cnet.com/news/young-women-spend-five-hours-a-week-taking-selfies-says-survey/

[ii] http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/08/14/how-selfies-are-ruining-your-relationships/

[iii] http://dailylounge.com/the-daily/entry/science-confirms-that-selfies-are-the-worst

 

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