Sexperiment Day 2 Devotional – Singles

Posted on February 10, 2014 by dkoop

sexperimentDAY 2 – UNITY

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14

 “THE MATH OF MARRIAGE IS 1+1=1”

Ninety percent of all single adults will marry at least one time during their lives. But a quick look at the divorce statistics show us the reality that most people aren’t dating the right way.

Why is there such a crisis in the dating world? Why the gap between the chances of marriage happening and the chances of a marriage lasting?

Think of it this way. Imagine trying to change the oil in a Ferrari by reading the owner’s manual of a Ford F-250. It wouldn’t work. The same concept is true when it comes to relationships.

When Christ told us to only date and marry other Christians, he wasn’t trying to rain on our relational parade. He knew we would all face tough times in life and love.  And he knew that the only way we could make it successfully through those times is for both sides to rely solely on him.

When it comes to your relationships, avoid the wreckage. Unite your heart with those who have united themselves to Christ. Look to get involved in the local church and revolve your social schedule around it. Turn to the only Guide who can direct you down the right path—God. And pray for God’s guidance so you can make the right decision when choosing those you date.

 ANSWER THE FOLLOWING

  • As you think about the most recent people you have dated, how many of them believed the same about Jesus as you do?
  • List the character traits you are looking for in a potential mate. Which ones have you been tempted to compromise and why do you think that was?

TAKE ACTION

  • Take time to write down a more comprehensive description of what you are looking for in someone you want to marry. Knowing what you desire will help you know what to look for.

 GO FURTHER

Read the section “Before You Do” on page 78 of Sexperiment book.

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Day_2-Unity-Singles

 

SEX RidgeFor more about the Sex series, to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

 

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Sexperiment Day 2 Devotional – Married

Posted on February 10, 2014 by dkoop

sexperimentDAY 2 – UNITY

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

“THE MATH OF MARRIAGE IS 1+1=1”

In the passage above, we read about God’s desire for husband and wife to “become one flesh.” That word “become” insinuates a process. You don’t meet Mr. Right or

Ms. Perfect one day and all of a sudden you are one flesh. The process of becoming

one flesh is a lifelong pursuit in marriage that takes constant commitment, intimacy, and connection from both people.

Whether you have been married for 5 days, 5 years or 5 decades, your marriage takes work. Becoming one flesh with your spouse requires intentional effort and energy. So enjoy this week of the 7 Day Sex Challenge and use it as a launching pad to start (or continue) your process of becoming one flesh.

Make your time together this week the top priority. Each morning, pray for God to reveal to you ways you can show your spouse just how much becoming one flesh means to you. And look for ways to place priority on sex by rearranging your schedule or even saying no to some other things that present themselves.

Remember, this week is all about strengthening your marriage. Use each day to build a strong connection and bond together.

 DISCUSS THE FOLLOWING

  • List some areas of your relationship where you regularly feel united with your spouse.
  • List some areas that have taken time for you to feel united.
  • Ask each other, “When conflict arises what is the best way for me to communicate with you my desire to be unified and for us to be reconciled?”

 TAKE ACTION

  • Take the necessary measures to clear up any lingering friction between you, or at least agree that past issues will not be allowed to interfere with your sexperiment.

 GO FURTHER

  • Read the section What’s Your Marital Work Ethic (MWE)? on pages 15-18 of Sexperiment book.

Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on pages 31-32 of Sexperiment book.

To download the PDF, click below:

Day_2-Unity-Married

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SEX RidgeFor more about the Sex series or to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

 

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Sexperiment Day 1 Devotional – Singles

Posted on February 9, 2014 by dkoop

DAY 1 – DIVINITY 

sexperiment“I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation…I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:12-13

“SEX IS VERTICAL BEFORE IT’S HORIZONAL”

We live in a very couples-driven culture. Seems everything is tailored for two: roller coasters, the smallest restaurant table is set for two, just to name…two. So many people hook up with others for the sake of not being alone. We have been wired to believe that happiness is found in finding someone else, and we are often pressured to find someone to “complete” us.

One of the most common deceptions about the single life is that it is not as fulfilling or rewarding as married life. Many people go through life believing they will never be happy until they are married. But don’t fall for that lie.

If you are desperately seeking the secret of contentment, you will find exactly what you need in one place—Jesus Christ. Jesus wants to fill those lonely areas in your life with something much more powerful than any human connection. He wants to fill them with supernatural contentment. Once you have a Christ centered life God will bring you into relationship with many Christ centered people when you choose to get connected in the local Church. Don’t rely on a man or woman to fill a void that only God can fill.

Enjoy being single! Find comfort in the fact that Jesus was single for his entire life.

He faced the same temptations that you face today; yet, he remained faithful to God’s plan for his life and found supernatural contentment in being single. You can too.

 ANSWER THE FOLLOWING

  • What are some of the advantages you experience from being single?
  • What are you doing today to connect with others who share your character and Godly standards?
  • What is something you need to change so that you can find more fulfillment in being single?

 TAKE ACTION

  • Think of one thing you can do in the next 24 hours that you couldn’t do if you were not single and enjoy it.

GO FURTHER

  • Read the section Before You Do on pages 32-33 of Sexperiment book

To download the PDF click below:

Day_1-Divinity-Singles

SEX RidgeFor more about the Sex series, to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

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Sexperiment Day 1 Devotional – Married

Posted on February 9, 2014 by dkoop

sexperimentDAY 1 – DIVINITY

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:21-28

SEX IS VERTICAL BEFORE IT’S HORIZONAL

In so many ways, our culture tells us to look out for ourselves. And if we listen long enough to that message, we fall into the trap of thinking that marriage is supposed to be “all about me”. We will also fall into the trap that marriage is built on a conditional love. We’ll get into the mindset that, “If you do this for me, then I’ll do this for you.” But that is not the way that God intended marriage to be done.

In the Bible, God tells us to have an unconditional, initiative-taking love for our spouse. Jesus loves us unconditionally; so much so that he died for us. He took the initiative to sacrifice for us in order to secure a relationship with us. What an example of what we should do for our spouse.

This week, take the initiative with your spouse. You have made the commitment to grow closer to one another, not only through seven days of sex, but through dialogue, connection, and vulnerability. Don’t wait for your spouse to pursue you.

Take the initiative and plan a special time together during the night. Arrange for the babysitter. Show your spouse that you are committed to strengthening your relationship this week. And use the Sexperiment to love your spouse the way that Jesus loves us—unconditionally and intentionally.

DISCUSS THE FOLLOWING

  • Ask your spouse, “How am I doing in making marriage about you?”
  • Tell your spouse one way they can take the initiative this week to demonstrate their love for you.
  • List out the ways of how love is best communicated to you and tell each other.

 TAKE ACTION

  • Pray together and ask God to grant each of you an attitude that is more interested in giving and pleasing your spouse than in receiving.

 GO FURTHER

  • Read the section “Reverse the Curse” on pages 12-14 of the Sexperiment book.
  • Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on pages 31-32 of Sexperiment.

To download the PDF  click below.

Day_1-Divinity-Married

SEX Ridge For more about the “SEX” series or to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

 

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