Sexperiment Day 4 Devotional – Married

sexperimentDay 4 – Priority

 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5

“Stop Making Sexcuses… and Start Making Love”

The Bible never says how often a husband and wife should have sex. It does, though, tell us that it is unhealthy for a couple to abstain from sex for an extended period of time. The break in physical intimacy only allows Satan to infiltrate the marriage with temptation.

This passage does give one specific reason to abstain for a time, but both husband and wife must agree. The one reason is an extended season of prayer. But you don’t have stop having sex in order to enjoy the incredible benefits of praying together and for each other. Praying with your spouse takes vulnerability that will accelerate your bond emotionally and spiritually. This emotional and spiritual connection will, in turn, lead you back to a time of physical connection.

Prayer coupled with an obedient life will give you God’s perspective on what you should be saying “yes” and “no” to together. Get ready to say “yes” to the best and “yes” to sex with your spouse when you prioritize with God’s help.

If you are consistently too tired or too busy for sex with your spouse, consider the words from the passage above. They are still applicable today.

After this week of the Sexperiment, maintain your connection with your spouse—intentionally and regularly. Continue using these seven days as a model of intimacy for your marriage 365 days a year.

 Discuss The Following

  • Ask your spouse, “Do you feel your needs and desires are being met often enough on a weekly or monthly basis?”
  • Ask your spouse, “Would you say our love making is a priority to me in respect to the time and creativity I invest into it?”
  • Answer this together, “What are actions we could take together to remove the obstacles that keep us from having sex more often with each other?”

 Take Action

  • Make a list of the “sexcuses” that have blocked intimacy in your marriage.
  • Discuss your feelings about them and make a firm commitment that none of them will bereasons for not completing the sexperiment.

Go Further

  • Read the introductory section on pages 35-51 of Sexperiment book.
  • Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on page 53 of Sexperiment.book

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Sexperiment Day 3 Devotional – Singles

sexperimentDay 3 – Purity

I put this in human terms because you are weak in your natural selves. Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness leading to holiness. Romans 6:19

 “It’s Not About Just Sex. It’s About Just Sex!”

With most of the popular television sitcoms, series, and late night talk shows coming on after the workday has ended, the prime time audience is growing. It’s almost impossible not to notice the easily accessible, irresistible action and drama centered plots in the television line up. But just as the regular prime time audience is growing, so is the audience that is getting the message of sex on a constant basis.

The most recent statistics show that even children are inundated with sexual content—up to 14,000 times a year on television alone!

Sexual innuendos and sex scenes are available nearly every time you turn on the television, listen to the radio, or search the Internet. Everyone has access to sexual content in today’s technologically advanced world. People all over the globe are tricked  by the subtlety of sex and the shallow message the world promotes. Too often they think that message is harmless. But the truth of the matter is that it breeds lust, and lust leads to destruction.

God tells us in Scripture that we are to “flee” from sexual immorality. He doesn’t tell us that we are to nonchalantly look the other way—we are to flee. That means that we are to turn 180° and run

When you choose to flee from lust, you are actually choosing to run directly towards God. Today, choose to offer your mind to things that honor God rather than entertaining thoughts of lust. When you feel the pull of sex outside of marriage, read God’s word, call a trusted friend, or physically walk away from the situation.

By fleeing those times, you’ll discover the amazing plan God has for your life.

 Answer The Following

  •  In view of the blatant ways in which culture talks about sex, how does your life portray the biblical viewpoint?
  • We can’t ignore every message our culture sends about sex. How do you keep focused on God’s message despite the numerous distractions?
  • Give an example of something that you can literally “flee” from in order to stay committed to God.

 Take Action                   

  • Take time to evaluate the television, music, movies and magazines that are a part of your life. If you discover any of these are pulling you away from God’s plan for your sexuality, make a change and remove them.

Go Further

  • Read the section Before You Do on pages 134-135 of Sexperiment.

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Sexperiment Day 3 Devotional – Married

sexperimentDay 3 – Purity

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure..Hebrews 13:4

 “It’s Not Just about Sex. It’s about Just Sex”

We have all heard the saying, “Gentlemen don’t kiss and tell.” But according to the Bible, this is sound policy for both men and women.

There is a quiet, but destructive force unleashed when we share the intimate details of our sex life with anyone other than our spouse. You may not notice the waves of destruction immediately, but they inevitably crash against the shores of your marriage, eroding your trust and confidence in one another.

If you want to talk about sex, talk about it with your spouse. Communication is a key to satisfying sex. Let your husband or wife know your likes and dislikes, your desires, wants and needs. If this is uncomfortable for you, you may need to start your discussions slowly and build a comfort level over time.

No matter what you do, though, do not violate the trust you share by telling others about what happens in your marriage bed. You don’t have to keep it between the sheets; but you do need to keep it between you and your spouse!

 Discuss The Following

  • Ask your spouse, “On a scale of 1 to 10, how comfortable are you talking about sex with me? What are some things that would make you feel more comfortable?”
  • Fill in the blank: You can help me keep the highest level of purity in our marriage by __________________________________________________________.

 Take Action

  • Spend some time flirting with each other, being romantic toward each other, and building your desire for each other.

 Go Further

  • Read the section What’s Lust Got to Do with It? on pages 117-119 of Sexperiment.
  • Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on pages 133-134 of Sexperiment.

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Understanding the Mystery of Sex

SEX RidgeSex is one of our biggest preoccupations — causing thrills, heartache and downright confusion. But until recently, exactly what happens in the brain during sex was something of a mystery to scientists.

The bible agrees,

…And the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery… Ephesians 5:31-32  (NIV)

Now, however, American researchers have uncovered some of what goes on.

Bonding Agents

A key hormone released during sex is oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle hormone’. This lowers our defenses and makes us trust people more.   It’s also the key to bonding, as it increases levels of empathy. Women produce more of this hormone, although it’s not clear why, and this means they are more likely to let their guard down and fall in love with a man after sex.

However, the problem is that the body can’t distinguish whether the person we’re with is a casual fling or your marriage partner — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short-term relationship ends.

In men, more dopamine is released — the pleasure hormone.  And this surge can be addictive,’ says Dr Ghosh.   That’s why so many more men tend to suffer from sex addiction.

More Brain Activity

The scientists from Rutgers University, New Jersey, found that up to 30 different parts of the brain are activated, including those responsible for emotion, touch, joy, satisfaction and memory.

There is a known circuit in the brain that’s involved in feeling happy,’ explains Paul Thompson, professor of neurology at the University of California, Los Angeles, and an expert in brain imaging.

‘This is called the limbic region, which is deep in the brain, and it’s more active when we’re rewarded.  ‘During sex there’s more blood flow to the head, more neurons firing, more brain activity.

‘Much of this deep brain circuit runs on the hormone dopamine. Anything pleasurable tends to cause these brain cells to exude more of it and this makes them fire faster.’

‘Without doubt, sex has not only physical but psychological and social benefits, too,’ says Dr Ghosh.

New Brain Cells and Less Dementia

Many of us are all too aware that our brain cells decline with age. In fact, it’s said we lose 7,000 brain cells a day by the time we’re 35, which makes rather depressing reading.

The good news, however, is that having regular sex may help us grow new brain cells, according to scientists from Princeton University in the United States.

And the more sex you have, the more cells you can grow, it seems. Animal studies, published in the journal PLoS ONE, suggest that sex stimulates the growth of brain cells in the hippocampus, the part of the brain responsible for memory and learning.

Factors such as stress and depression have been shown to shrink the hippocampus, yet exercise and sex counteract this effect.

Furthermore, sex could actually be protecting our brain cells against decline.

‘There is some evidence that older people who are sexually active are less likely to have dementia and this could be for a variety of complex reasons,’ says Dr Ghosh.

Sex causes increased blood flow to the brain, which improves oxygen levels.

‘MRI scans have shown that during orgasm the neurons in the brain are more active and use more oxygen,’ explains Barry Komisaruk, professor of psychology at Rutgers University and a leading authority on sex and neuroscience.

‘It appears that the more active the neurons, the more oxygen they withdraw from the blood — so more oxygenated blood is supplied to the region, delivering a fresh supply of nutrients.’

But as well as boosting brain cells, sex could also sharpen a woman’s mind, says Dr Ghosh. That’s due to a surge in sex hormones, particularly testosterone, which can help improve concentration and reaction times.

Less Depression

‘The endorphins released during sex can really help treat depression and clear the mind.

‘One is serotonin, also called the happy hormone, which creates a sense of bliss. People often say that sex is the last thing they feel like doing when they’re depressed, but do try it if you can.

‘And don’t worry if you get emotional afterwards.. This is caused by a combination of endorphins being released and heightened emotions.’

A Natural Painkiller

Orgasm can block pain signals, says Professor Komisaruk. Research using laboratory animals and humans has found that orgasm can inhibit the release of pain transmitters from the spinal cord so they can’t reach the neurons in the brain that respond to pain.

In fact, he says, it can raise the pain threshold so much that the equivalent effect in morphine is three times the usual pain-relieving dose.

But experts say that for many people — especially women — the mind plays a key role in achieving orgasm.

Better Sleep

If you’re struggling to nod off, it’s better to have sex than take a sleeping pill, says Dr Ghosh.

‘In fact, it’s more beneficial to have sex in the evening rather than the morning because the body wants to be relaxed afterwards, not get up and go to work.

‘By having sex at the end of the day you’ll reap more of the stress-relieving benefits.  For a man, a powerful orgasm is the equivalent of having on average a 2-3mg shot of diazepam (or Valium).

‘That’s why so many men nod off afterwards — there really is a biological reason for this.’

Smooching Means Better Sex

You’ll have much better sex if you kiss before intercourse.  The lips are packed with nerve endings — 100 times more than the fingertips.

As a result, kissing kick-starts multiple mechanisms in the brain, releasing chemicals that lower stress and boost mood, says Dr Ghosh.

It increases levels of the pleasure hormones and will make you a lot more receptive to what happens later.

‘That’s why loving sex can be more satisfying than a quickie — and that endorphin hit from dopamine is especially important for women.’

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 Adapted from : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2031498/Sex-Why-makes-women-fall-love–just-makes-men-want-MORE.html#ixzz2snAYC3uD

 

 

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