Fasting Checklist

Would you like to fast?  Have you tried it?  If you would like to begin or continue this spiritual discipline, here’s a checklist to follow that will make your time with the Lord more meaningful and spiritually rewarding.

1.       Why am I Fasting?

Is it for spiritual renewal, for guidance, for healing, for the resolution of problems, for special grace to handle a difficult situation? Ask the Holy Spirit to clarify His leading and objectives for your prayer fast. This will enable you to pray more specifically and strategically.

2. What type of Fast?

Pray about the kind of fast you should undertake. Jesus implied that all of His followers should fast (Matthew 6:16-18; 9:14,15) For Him it was a matter of when believers would fast, not if they would do it. Before you fast, decide the following up front:

  • How long you will fast – one meal, one day, a week, several weeks, forty days (Beginners should start slowly, building up to longer fasts.)
  • What is the type of fast God wants you to undertake:
  • Absolute fast:  no food or water for a period of time
  • Normal fast:  only water, but no food or other drink
  • Partial or Liquid fast:  liquids, juices, etc
  • Easter fast:  like Lent, fasting or giving up something in the weeks leading up to Easter
  • Media/Technology:  TV, radio, Facebook, telephone, etc.
  • How much time will you devote to prayer and time with God?

Making these commitments ahead of time will help you sustain your fast when physical temptations and life’s pressures tempt you to abandon it.

3.       Am I Ready Physically?

Fasting requires reasonable precautions. Consult your physician first, especially if you take prescription medication or have a chronic ailment. Some persons should never fast without professional supervision.

Physical preparation makes the drastic change in your eating routine a little easier so that you can turn your full attention to the Lord in prayer.

  • Do not rush into your fast.
  • Prepare your body. Eat healthier meals before starting a fast.

4.  Am I Prepared Spiritually?

The very foundation of fasting and prayer is to seek God. Here are several things you can do to prepare your heart:

  •  Begin your time of fasting and prayer with an expectant heart (Hebrews 11:6).
  • Plan to listen.  When you run out of things to pray for, listen to God’s voice.
  • Confess every sin that the Holy Spirit calls to your remembrance and accept God’s forgiveness (1 John 1:9).
  • Surrender your life fully to Jesus Christ; refuse to obey your worldly nature (Romans 12:1,2).
  • Do not underestimate spiritual opposition. Satan sometimes intensifies the natural battle between body and spirit (Galatians 5:16,17).

5.      While Fasting

Your time of fasting and prayer has come. You are abstaining from all solid foods and have begun to seek the Lord. Here are some helpful suggestions to consider:

  • Prepare yourself for temporary mental discomforts, such as impatience, crankiness, and anxiety.
  • Limit your activity.
  • Rest as much as your schedule will permit.
  • Expect some physical discomforts.. You may have fleeting hunger pains, dizziness, or the “blahs.” Withdrawal from caffeine and sugar may cause headaches. Physical annoyances may also include weakness, tiredness, or sleeplessness.

 Tips on Liquid/Juice Fasting:

  • Drinking fruit juice will decrease your hunger pains and give you some natural sugar energy. The taste and lift will motivate and strengthen you to continue.
  • Mix acidic juices (orange and tomato) with water for your stomach’s sake.
  • Avoid caffeinated drinks. And avoid chewing gum or mints, even if your breath is bad. They stimulate digestive action in your stomach.

 6.      Make a Schedule

For maximum spiritual benefit, set aside ample time to be alone with the Lord.  The more time you spend with Him, the more meaningful your fast will be.

Morning

  • Read and meditate on God’s Word
  • Invite God to use you. Ask Him to show you how to influence your world, your family, your church, your community, your country, and beyond.
  • Pray for His vision for your life and empowerment to do His will.

 Noon

  •  Return to prayer and God’s Word.
  • Take a short prayer walk.

 Evening

  •  Avoid television or any other distraction that may dampen your spiritual focus.
  • Repeat any of the above.

 7.      End  My Fast Gradually

Begin eating gradually.  If you end your fast gradually, the beneficial physical and spiritual effects will result in continued good health.

Here are some suggestions to help you end your fast properly:

  • Break an extended water fast with fruit such as watermelon.
  • Liquid fasts are not as hard on the body, but avoid overly spicy, fatty or sugary foods right after a liquid fast.

8.      Expect Results

If you sincerely humble yourself before the Lord, repent, pray, and seek God’s face; if you consistently meditate on His Word, you will experience a heightened awareness of His presence (John 14:21). The Lord will give you fresh, new spiritual insights. Your confidence and faith in God will be strengthened. You will feel mentally, spiritually, and physically refreshed. You will see answers to your prayers.

A single fast, however, is not a spiritual cure-all.  Just as we need to seek God daily and live under the Power of the Holy Spirit daily, we also need new times of fasting before God. A 24-hour fast each week has been greatly rewarding to many Christ followers.

It takes time to build your spiritual fasting muscles. If you fail to make it through your first fast, do not be discouraged. You may have tried to fast too long the first time out, or your may need to strengthen your understanding and resolve. As soon as possible, undertake another fast until you do succeed. God will honor you for your faithfulness.

I encourage you to join me in fasting and prayer again and again until we truly experience revival in our homes, our church, our nation, and throughout the world.

Darrell

www.ridgefellowship.com

Sources and for further reading:

http://www.creatingfutures.net/fasting.htm

http://www.ccci.org/training-and-growth/devotional-life/7-steps-to-fasting/index.htm

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What is Fasting?

As a church we will observe a time of fasting to prepare ourselves for Easter.  Here is a general overview of fasting:

What is fasting?  Abstaining from something, usually food, for spiritual purposes

 What does the Bible say?

  • Biblical examples:  Moses (Exodus 34:28; Deut. 9:9,18), David (2 Samuel 12:16), Elijah (1 Kings 19:8), Nehemiah (Nehemiah 1:4); Esther (Esther 4:16), Daniel (Daniel 1:12), Anna (Luke 2:37), Paul (Acts 14:23), Jesus (Matthew 4:1-2), the early church (13:2).
  • Jesus placed fasting on the same level as financial giving and prayer (Matthew 6:1-18).
  • Jesus said that there is a time for fasting (Matthew 9:15).
  • Paul says we should give ourselves at times to prayer and fasting (1 Corinthians 7:5).

 What is the purpose of fasting?

  • The primary purpose of fasting is to focus on God and to center our attention on Him.  In doing so, we glorify God (Zechariah 7:5).
  • Outer fasting is to lead to inner prayer, worship, and devotion.  We “fast on food so we can feast on God.”
  • Fasting is not for personal glory or any other selfish motives (Matthew 6:16-18).
  • Secondary purposes of fasting:  fasting can reveal non-essential things that control us and take precedence in our lives (1 Corinthians 6:12); fasting can increase the effectiveness of prayer (2 Samuel 12:16); fasting can bring guidance from God in decisions (Acts 14:23);  fasting can bring revelations (Acts 13:2); fasting can help our physical wellbeing (Daniel 1:12); fasting can aid in concentration; fasting can help bring deliverance for those who are in bondage.   But these benefits come only when fasting is our attempt to diligently seek God.

What are the different types of fasting?

  1. Absolute fast:  no food or water for a period of time (Exodus 34:28; Esther 4:16)
  2. Normal fast:  only water, but no food or other drink (Nehemiah 1:4)
  3. Partial fast:  usually only water, juices, and sometimes fruit (Daniel 1:12)
  4. Lent fast:  giving up something specific for the duration of Lent (Ash Wednesday – Easter Sunday)
  5. Other things to fast from:  people, media, telephone, certain activities/habits, etc.

We will fast in one of the ways listed above, once each week until Easter on April 8th.   Most of our church will join in a fast on Good Friday, April 6th.

If you would like to join us you can comment below or write fast on your Connection Card on Sunday.  I am praying for you.  God is going to do great things.

Darrell

For more about The Ridge Fellowship, go to  www.ridgefellowship.com

Source: Developed from Nelson Searcy Coaching http://www.churchleaderinsights.com
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Reasons Not to Live Together Before Marriage

Various studies have shown something called “The Cohabitation Effect.” This includes:

  • More negative communication in marriage
  • Lower levels of marital satisfaction
  • Higher marital instability
  • Lower levels of male commitment to spouse
  • Greater likelihood of divorce

Cohabitation – the studies

There have actually been numerous studies that have examined whether living together before marriage is a good idea. The data shows that people who have multiple cohabiting relationships before marriage are more likely to experience more negative communication in marriage,1 lower levels of marital satisfaction,2 the erosion over time of the perceived value of marriage,3 higher perceived marital instability,4 lower levels of male commitment to spouse,5 and greater likelihood of divorce6 than people who do not cohabit before marriage. Although some of these effects might be due to the characteristics of people who cohabit (e.g., they tend to move from one relationship to another), recent studies suggest that selection is not involved,7 but that the cohabitation experience itself contributes to problems in marriage.

The reason why cohabitation may setup couples for failure in marriage is because cohabitation is just a test. Since all couples suffer from some incompatibility, when the other partner “fails” the test, the person moves on to the next partner. A succession of cohabitation failures results in an inability to maintain commitment – the most important part of a marriage relationship. Recent research shows that most couples who cohabit do not do so as a trial marriage, but just slide into it without any particular intent.8

Abuse and Murder

A nation-wide study of over 400,000 homicides committed between 1976 and 1994 calculated the rate of murders of women by her romantic partner.9 It was found that the incidence of was nine times higher in women who cohabited with men than those who were married.

There are a number of factors that predict success or failure in marriage. When considering a potential marriage partner, these factors greatly impact the average success rate for marriage (although there will obviously be exceptions to the trends). Some of these factors predict a more than twice the likelihood of divorce.

Divorce

According to a new research study, living together before marriage increases the chance of divorce. Cohabitation is a positive factor for divorce, which sounds good, but actually means that couples who live together are more likely to split up after marriage.

This information is based upon a 5-year study by Scott Stanley, a psychologist at the University of Denver. Stanley has been interested in the subject of cohabitation for the past 15 years, after he read a 1995 report on the subject.

In the control group who did not live together, only 10 percent had brought up divorce. This means that twice as many people who cohabitated had wanted a divorce enough to tell their partner. Dr. Stanley concludes that many people, who lived together, are less dedicated to making the marriage succeed than those who never had the same premarital address.

These studies are a great reminder that God’s way is the best way.   It’s better to marry, as the God’s word says, than to live together.

Darrell

For more on the series, Marriage Dilemma, go to www.ridgefellowship.com

  1. Cohan, C.L. and S. Kleinbaum. 2004. Toward a Greater Understanding of the Cohabitation Effect: Premarital Cohabitation and Marital Communication. Journal of Marriage and Family 64: 180-192.
    Kline, G. H., Stanley, S. M., Markman, H. J., Olmos-Gallo, P. A., St. Peters, M., Whitton, S. W., & Prado, L. M. 2004. Timing is everything: Pre-engagement cohabitation and increased risk for poor marital outcomes. Journal of Family Psychology 18: 311-318.
    Stanley, S. M., Whitton, S. W., S Markman, H. J. 2004. Maybe I do: Interpersonal commitment and premarital or nonmarital cohabitation. Journal of Family Issues 25: 490-519.
    Thomson, E. and U. Colella. 1992. Cohabitation and marital stability: Quality or commitment? Journal of Marriage and the Family 54: 259-267.
  2. Nock, S.L. 1995. A Comparison of Marriages and Cohabiting Relationships.  Journal of Family Issues 16: 53-76.
    Stafford, L., Kline, S.L, & Rankin, C.T. 2004. Married Individuals, Cohabiters, and Cohabiters Who Marry: A Longitudinal Study of Relational and Individual Well-Being. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships 21: 231-248.
    Stanley, S. M., Whitton, S. W., S Markman, H. J. 2004. Maybe I do: Interpersonal commitment and premarital or nonmarital cohabitation. Journal of Family Issues 25: 490-519.
  3. Axinn, W. G. and J. S. Barber. 1997. Living Arrangements and Family Formation Attitudes in Early Adulthood. Journal of Marriage and the Family 59:595-611.
    Axinn, W., and A. Thornton. 1992. The Relationship between Cohabitation and Divorce: Selectivity or Causal Influence? Demography 29: 357-374.
  4. Kamp Dush, C. M., Cohan, C. L., and Amato, P. R. 2003. The relationship between cohabitation and marital quality and stability: Changes across cohorts? Journal of Marriage and Family 65: 539-549.
    Stafford, L., Kline, S.L, & Rankin, C.T. 2004. Married Individuals, Cohabiters, and Cohabiters Who Marry: A Longitudinal Study of Relational and Individual Well-Being. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships 21: 231-248.
    Thomson, E. and U. Colella. 1992. Cohabitation and marital stability: Quality or commitment? Journal of Marriage and the Family 54: 259-267.
  5. Rhoades, G. K., Petrella, J. N., Stanley, S. M., & Markman, H. J. 2006. Premarital cohabitation, husbands’ commitment, and wives’ satisfaction with the division of household contributions. Marriage and Family Review 40: 5–22.
  6. DeMaris, A., Rao, K. V. 1992. Premarital Cohabitation and Subsequent Marital Stability in the United States: A Reassessment. Journal of Marriage and the Family 54: 178-190.
    Kamp Dush, C. M., Cohan, C. L., & Amato, P. R. 2003. The relationship between cohabitation and marital quality and stability: Changes across cohorts? Journal of Marriage and Family, 65, 539-549.
    Phillips, J. A. and M. M. Sweeney. 2005. Premarital Cohabitation and the Risk of Marital Disruption among White, Black, and Mexican American Women. Journal of Marriage and Family 67:296-314.
    J. Teachman.  2003.  Premarital Sex, Premarital Cohabitation, and the Risk of Subsequent Marital Dissolution Among Women. Journal of Marriage and Family 65: 444-455.
    Stanley, S. M., Amato, P. R., Johnson, C. A., & Markman, H. J. 2006. Premarital education, marital quality, and marital stability: Findings from a large, random, household survey. Journal of Family Psychology 20: 117-126.
    Paik, A. 2011. Adolescent Sexuality and the Risk of Marital Dissolution. Journal of Marriage and Family 73: 472 DOI: 10.1111/j.1741-3737.2010.00819.x.
  7. Cohan, C.L. and S. Kleinbaum. 2004. Toward a Greater Understanding of the Cohabitation Effect: Premarital Cohabitation and Marital Communication. Journal of Marriage and Family 64: 180-192.
    Kamp Dush, C. M., Cohan, C. L., and Amato, P. R. 2003. The relationship between cohabitation and marital quality and stability: Changes across cohorts? Journal of Marriage and Family 65: 539-549.
    Kline, G. H., Stanley, S. M., Markman, H. J., Olmos-Gallo, P. A., St Peters, M., Whitton, S. W., S Prado, L. 2004. Timing is everything: Pre-engagement cohabitation and increased risk for poor marital outcomes. Journal of Family Psychology 18: 311-318.
    Stanley, S. M., Whitton, S. W., S Markman, H. J. 2004. Maybe I do: Interpersonal commitment and premarital or nonmarital cohabitation. Journal of Family Issues 25: 490-519.
    Rhoades, G. K., Stanley, S. M., Markman, H. J. 2000. Pre-engagement cohabitation and gender asymmetry in marital commitment. Journal of Family Psychology 20: 553-500.
  8. Rhoades, G. K., Stanley, S. M., S Markman, H. J. 2009. Couples’ reasons for cohabitation: Associations with individual well-being and relationship quality. Journal of Family Issues 30: 233-258.
    Stanley, S. M., Rhoades, G. K, & Markman, H. J. (2006). Sliding vs. Deciding: Inertia and the premarital cohabitation effect. Family Relations 55: 499-509.
  9. Todd K. Shackelford. 2001. Cohabitation, Marriage, and Murder: Woman-Killing by Male Romantic Partners Aggr. Behav. 27:284–291.
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Marriage Retreat

Our Marriage Retreat is designed to enrich, renew and lead couples to discover a vibrant & healthy marriage.

The Retreat will cover the following:

  • Top Ten Relational Needs – How to know each other more intimately in order to love each other well.
  • Honest and Loving Communication – How to speak truth in a loving manner
  • Caring Responses – How to respond when someone is “upset”
  • Healing Hurt through Confession and Forgiveness – Experiencing God’s plan for resolving hurt, anger and guilt
  • “Leaving Father and Mother” – How the families we came from shape us and how we can respond today
  • Ongoing Marriage Enrichment – How to continue to grow and change after the workshop

 When:  Friday March 2, 7:00 PM through Saturday March 3rd 4:00 PM

 About Our Presenters

Ben and Tonya Terry have been married over 30 years now, raised 3 children of their own; Amanda, Ryan & Shayne and in 2009 adopted two more children Jessica and Taylor.

Ben & Tonja have had the privilege of being trained & certified as Relationship Coaches by one of the world’s finest marriage champions, Dr. David Ferguson. In addition to being the founder and executive director of Intimate Life Ministries, Dr. Ferguson is the founder of The Center for Relational Care and the Center for Relational Leadership, all headquartered in Austin, Texas

Ben is also a certified Marriage Mentor & Program facilitator of Life Innovations’ Prepare-Enrich Marriage Program, as well as a certified facilitator of New Hope Resources’ Great Start Marriage Program.

For more information see their website:  http://www.greatmarriage.co/#/about-us

  

Where:  Highland Lakes Camp and Conference Center

A serene, inspirational setting, away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life.

The natural beauty of our 240-acres lining the shores of Lake Travis helps create an atmosphere that encourages reflection and relaxation, renewal and refreshment.  

Lodging: Motel Rooms

*Note: Highland Lakes Camp and Conference Center is a rustic, but comfortable and affordable get away as opposed to a luxurious resort.

 

 

 

Food: breakfast & lunch are included in the retreat cost 

 For more about HLCC go to their web site:  http://www.highlandlakescamp.org/459948.ihtml

 Directions to Highland Lakes Camp and Conference Center

 Click HERE to be directed to a map and directions from MapQuest. Or follow the suggested directions listed below.

 Go West R.R. 620 to Highway 71 West.
Turn right. Continue through Bee Cave approximately 12 miles. 

 Highway 71 T-intersects with F.M. 2322 at a full stop light.  (Landmarks at this intersection include a Chevron station and Security State Bank).  Turn here and head North.  Continue 5 miles to Pace Bend Park guard booth.  Tell them you are going to Highland Lakes and continue straight on the main road.  Highland Lakes’ entrance will be 3.5 miles into the park on the left.

 

Schedule:

Friday Evening:

Session 1:  7:00 pm – 8:00 pm     Marital Intimacy: How Are We Doing?

Session 2:  8:00 pm – 9:00 pm     What Do We Need From Each Other?

Saturday Morning:

Breakfast 8:00 am – 8:45 am

Session 3:  9:00 am – 10:00 am    What Is Filling My Emotional Cup?

Session 4:  10:00 am – 11:00 am  Healing Our Hurts

Session 5:  11:00 am – 12:00 pm  Studying Your Family Tree

Lunch 12:00 pm – 12:45 pm

Session 6:  1:00 pm – 2:00 pm      Caring About the Losses of Life

Session 7:  2:00 pm – 3:00 pm      The Games We Play

Session 8:  3:00 pm – 4:00 pm      Becoming Friends & Lovers

 

The  Marriage Retreat  provides practical, Christ-centered principles for truly “knowing” and loving your spouse, allowing them to better “know” you and how to love you, with hands-on exercises and examples of how to become caringly involved in each other’s lives.

Cost:  $149/per couple.    

Space is limited, to secure your spot a $49 deposit is due by Februay 17th. 

There are several options for payment:

  1. On Sunday, Cash, Credit Card or Check -Make checks payable to The Ridge – put “Marriage Retreat”  on memo line or by cash or credit card using an offering envelope. 
  2. Or mail your check payable to The Ridge – put “Marriage Retreat” on memo line to 8754 RR 2243, Leander TX, 78641 by February 17th.

 3. Pay online – put “marriage retreat”  where it says, ” Add Special Instructions to Seller

               Here is a link to our online giving:   www.RidgeFellowship.com/onlinegiving

 

For any other questions, just comment at the bottom of this post and I will get back to you.

Or go to our website www.RidgeFellowship.com

Thanks for investing in your marriage!

Darrell

PS.  To maximize your experience and continue to invest in your marriage be sure to take the Growth Group offered this semester called Intimate Encounters

Click here for more information about meeting times and materials: http://www.ridgefellowship.com/#/growth-groups/interest-groups

Click here to sign up: http://www.ridgefellowship.com/form.php?pageID=48

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