Why Should I Forgive Someone and How Can I do it?

Forgiveness is one of the most Christ-like things you can do.   If we love someone the way Christ loves us, we will be willing to forgive. If we have experienced God’s grace, we will want to pass it on to others. And remember, grace is undeserved favor.

 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32

Because God has forgiven all our sins, we should not withhold forgiveness from others. Realizing how completely Christ has forgiven us should produce a free and generous attitude of forgiveness toward others.   How should we forgive someone? The way Christ has forgiven you.

  Forgiveness is different from the way the world operates.  In this day of constant lawsuits and incessant demands for legal rights, the Bible’s command sounds almost impossible. When someone hurts you deeply, instead of giving him what he deserves, we are to forgive him. Why forgive our enemies?

  1.  Forgiveness may break a cycle of retaliation.  If you return hurt for hurt, when does it end?  You could end up even more hurt in the long run.
  2.  It may make the enemy feel ashamed and change his or her ways.   It may even be possible for the relationship to change for the better.
  3. Even if your enemy never acknowledges their wrong, forgiving him or her will free you of a heavy load of bitterness.  It also means that you did what God asked of you.  

 19 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”  Romans 12:19-20

By giving your enemy a drink, we’re not excusing their behavior. We’re forgiving them, and loving them in spite of their sins—just as Christ did for us.

Forgiveness involves both attitudes and actions. If you find it difficult to feel forgiving of those who have hurt you, try responding with kind actions. Pray for them, give them a helping hand. Send them a gift. Smile at them. Many times you will discover that right actions lead to right feelings.

 Forgiveness goes both ways.

 If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matthew 6:14-15)

Jesus gives a startling warning about forgiveness: if we refuse to forgive others, God will also refuse to forgive us. Why? Because when we don’t forgive others, we are denying our common ground as sinners in need of God’s forgiveness. God’s forgiveness of sin is not the direct result of our forgiving others, but it is based on our realizing what forgiveness means. It is easy to ask God for forgiveness, but difficult to grant it to others. Whenever we ask God to forgive us for sin, we should ask ourselves, “Have I forgiven the people who have wronged me?”

  Forgiveness does not keep track of offenses.

 Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” (Matthew 18:21)

 The rabbis taught that people should forgive those who offend them—but only three times. Peter, trying to be especially generous, asked Jesus if seven (the “perfect” number) was enough times to forgive someone. But Jesus answered, “Seventy times seven,” meaning that we shouldn’t even keep track of how many times we forgive someone.

 Give the greatest gift of all this Christmas, the gift of forgiveness.

Darrell

For more about the series The Gift of Forgiveness, go to www.ridgefellowship.com  

Sources:  
Handbook of Bible Application
International Standard Bible Encyclopedia
New International Version of the Bible
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How Do I Commit My Life to Christ?

Do you feel disconnected from God?

 At some point we all are.  Humanity has a natural desire to be in charge of our own lives and to ignore God’s principles for living. The Bible calls this attitude “sin” or separation.

“All of us, like sheep, have gone astray, and each of us has turned to his own way.”  Isaiah 53:6

 Sin separates us from God and causes us to live our lives out of His will.

“The trouble is that your sins have cut you off from God.”  Isaiah 59:2

 “All have sinned and fall short of God’s glorious ideal.”  Romans 3:23

It looks like this…

All the best attempts in the world won’t get you to where you need to be.  Many people may say:

  • “My mother was a Christian, so…”
  • “I’ll work real hard and earn it.”
  • “It doesn’t matter what you believe, just be sincere.”
  • “I’m better than so-and-so.”
  • “I’ll give up all my bad habits.”
  • “I’ll be religious and go to church.”

The Bible teaches us a relationship with God is NOT based on GOOD WORKS or RELIGION.  

I. WHAT’S THE SOLUTION?

  “Jesus said, ‘I AM THE WAY, the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the Father, except THROUGH ME!’”  John 14:6

God came to earth as a human being [in Jesus] to bring us back to Himself. If any other way would have worked, Jesus would not have had to come.  “The Way” is through the person of Jesus!

“The wages of sin is death, BUT the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”  Roman 6:23

JESUS PAID THE PRICE FOR YOUR SINS!

“For there is only one God and one Mediator who can reconcile God and people.  He is the man Christ Jesus.” 1 Timothy 2:5

 

WHY DID GOD SEND JESUS TO DIE IN YOUR PLACE?

God did this for YOU because He loves YOU and wants YOU to know Him.

“God demonstrated His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  Romans 5:8

God has already done His part to restore our relationship to Him. HE TOOK THE INITIATIVE.  NOW HE WAITS FOR EACH OF US to individually ACCEPT what He has done for us.

 WHAT DOES GOD WANT ME TO DO?

 1.  ADMIT THAT I HAVE IGNORED GOD’S PRINCIPLES AND ASK HIM TO FORGIVE MY SINS.

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from every wrong.”  1 John 1:9

2.  BELIEVE THAT JESUS DIED TO PAY FOR MY SINS AND THAT HE ROSE AGAIN, AND IS ALIVE TODAY.

  “If you confess that Jesus is your Lord, and you believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”  Romans 10:9

 “Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name (Jesus) by which we must be saved.”  Acts 4:12

3.  ACCEPT GOD’S FREE GIFT OF SALVATION. DON’T TRY TO EARN IT.

“For it is by grace you are saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast.”  Ephesians 2:8-9

 Our relationship to God is not restored by anything we do, but on the basis on what Jesus already did for us!

4.  INVITE JESUS CHRIST TO COME INTO MY LIFE AND BE THE DIRECTOR (“LORD”) OF MY LIFE.

“To all who receive Him, He gives the right to become children of God. All we need to do is to trust Him to save us. All those who believe this are reborn! … Not a physical rebirth …  but from the will of God!”  John 1:12-13

 “Jesus says, ‘Listen!  I stand at the door and knock.  If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in…’”  Revelation 3:30

YOU CAN TAKE THESE STEPS BY PRAYING A SIMPLE PRAYER OF COMMITMENT TO GOD.  IT MIGHT BE SOMETHING LIKE THIS…

“Dear Jesus, thank you for making me and loving me, even when I’ve ignored you and gone my own way.  I realize I need you in my life and I’m sorry for my sins.  I ask you to forgive me. Thank you for dying on the cross for me.  Please help me to understand it more.  As much as I know how, I want to follow you from now on.  Please come into my life and make me a new person inside.  I accept your gift of salvation.  Please help me to grow now as a Christian.”

If you prayed a prayer like this to God, you have committed your life to Christ.  You have come to know Him.  Congratulations!   You have made the most important decision in your life:

It Forgives Your Past, Secures Your Future, & Makes Your Present Manageable With God’s Help.

“Whoever calls upon the name of the Lord will be saved.”  Romans 10:13

If you have any questions, or if I can help you grow in any way please let me know.

Darrell

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Thanks! – Tithe Challenge Week 12

This is it.  Our three month tithe challenge is up!  It’s been awesome. 

In the past twelve weeks have had had six stories or as some would call “testimonies” about tithing!

Twelve weeks, six stories, amazing.   As we wrap up I want us to remember all God has done, during this tithe challenge and in our lives. 

  • Remember God’s love.
  • Remember his sacrifice on the cross to pay for our forgiveness. 
  • Remember all the ways he provides for us. 
  • Remember has He has given us – purpose, peace and eternal life.   
  • Remember His word and all it says about giving, tithing, contentment and money. 

165 times God says, “Remember” in the bible.   It’s so easy to forget and think, “What have you done for me lately!”   If God never did anything else we can still be thankful for all eternity for salvation, for forgiveness, for His word that guides us and for all our past blessings.  But the truth is He will not stop giving, providing, guiding, protecting and being God.   But he does ask us to “remember” because there will be times we will wonder, “God are you there, God do you care?”  To remember is to reflect back all  He has done, and it’s a lot!

Lastly I want to say, thanks!

  • Thanks so much for stepping out in faith. 
  • Thanks for testing God in this critical area of your spiritual life. 
  • Thanks for going for it!  I know from talking to many of you that you were scared, nervous and apprehensive at first. 
  • Thanks for pushing through those initial feelings to a place of faith and trust in almighty God who is our provider.  
  • Thanks for seeking to be truly different in a world that is characterized by such selfishness.  

George Bernard Shaw said, “This is the true joy in life:  being used for a mighty purpose, instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.  Life is no brief candle. It’s a splendid torch which I hold for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.”   

Keep burning brightly!  Darrell

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Church Leadership Structure

To understand the Biblical structure for church leadership, we need to look closely at these three groups.

The Bible teaches that New Testament Churches such as The Ridge Fellowship are comprised of three basic groups:  saints, deacons and pastors.

Philippians 1:1 illustrates this truth, “…to all the saints in Christ Jesus at Philippi, together with the overseers and deacons.”

1.     Saints

The Greek word translated saints is “hagios” and it means “holy.”  A New Testament saint is a professing believer in Christ – made “holy” not by their own actions, but by faith in Christ.  The word saint is used over 45 times in the New Testament.

 The term “saint” represents all believers in the Kingdom of God as well as all believers in a particular church or fellowship.  In the most common sense, saints are the members of the church including both overseers and deacons.

2.     Deacons

The Greek word translated “deacon” Diakonos means “servant.”

Diakonos (servant) is used in two passages in the NIV translation:  Philippians 1:1 and in I Timothy 3:8-13…

Philippians 1:1  To all the saints in Christ Jesus at Philippi, together with the overseers and deacons:

 1 Timothy 3:8-13 Deacons, likewise, are to be men worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain.  They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience.  They must first be tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let them serve as deacons.  In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.  A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage his children and his household well.  Those who have served well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in their faith in Christ Jesus.

 Again this passage indicates that not every saint is qualified to serve as a deacon.

Acts 6:1-7 is generally accepted as the initial scriptural basis for deacons in the church as well as the scriptural basis for the deacon’s role in the church…

Acts 6:1-7  In those days when the number of disciples was increasing, the Grecian Jews among them complained against the Hebraic Jews because their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution of food.  So the Twelve gathered all the disciples together and said, “It would not be right for us to neglect the ministry of the word of God in order to wait on tables.  Brothers, choose seven men from among you who are known to be full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will turn this responsibility over to them and will give our attention to prayer and the ministry of the word.”  This proposal pleased the whole group. They chose Stephen, a man full of faith and of the Holy Spirit; also Philip, Procorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicolas from Antioch, a convert to Judaism.  They presented these men to the apostles, who prayed and laid their hands on them.  So the word of God spread. The number of disciples in Jerusalem increased rapidly…

*This passage also expresses a difference in the role and responsibilities between believers, those who serve as deacons and those who serve as overseers.

*Deacons (servants) are responsible for the physical ministry of the church – they are to meet the practical needs of the saints – while the overseers are responsible for the spiritual ministry and needs of the church.

3.     Pastors/Elders/Overseers

 The terms pastor or shepherd, elder and overseer or bishop all refer to different aspects of the same individual.  They do not refer to different offices within the church leadership structure.

1 Peter 5:1-4 “To the elders among you, I appeal as a fellow elder, a witness of Christ’s sufferings and one who also will share in the glory to be revealed:  Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, serving as overseers–not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not greedy for money, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock.  And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that will never fade away.”

Let’s define each:

Pastor:  the Greek word is “poimen.”  It is translated into English as pastor or shepherd.

Overseer – the Greek word is “episkopos” and it can be translated, overseer or bishop.

Elder:  the Greek word is “presbuteros” and it is translated as elder.

*Notice that the passage in I Peter 5:1-4 (above) is addressed to “the elders” (presbuteros) and instructs them to “be shepherds (poimen) of God’s flock that is under your care, serving as overseers (episkopos).”

Acts 14:23  “Paul and Barnabas appointed elders for them in each church and, with prayer and fasting, committed them to the Lord, in whom they had put their trust.”

 The term “elder” is used to describe the degree of spiritual maturity that an individual possesses, while the term “bishop” is used to describe the role that an individual plays in the structure of the church.  So an elder is not an “office”; it is a descriptive term for an individual who holds the office of bishop or overseer.

 Both terms – episkopos (overseer/bishop) and presbuteros (elder) are used in reference to the same individuals in I Peter 5:1-4.  

 The pastor, elder or overseer’s role is to…

 1.     Keep watch over the church.

Acts 20:28  “Keep watch over yourselves and all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers.  Be shepherds of the church of God, which He bought with His own Blood.”

 2.     Manage the church.

 I Timothy 3:1 & 4-5  “If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task…He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect.  If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?”

 3.     Lead the church.

 Hebrews 13:17 “Obey your leaders and submit to their authority.  They keep watch over you as men who must give an account.  Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you.”

4.     Account to God for the church.

 Hebrews 13:17  “They keep watch over you as men who must give an account.”

 5.     Preparing believers to serve the church.

 Ephesians 4:11-12 It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ

Pastors/Teachers are to prepare God’s people (saints) for works of service so the church can be unified in faith and spiritually mature.

The major qualifications for those who serve as overseers are found in

I Timothy 3:1-7…

1 Timothy 3:1-7 Here is a trustworthy saying: If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task.  Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.  He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect.  (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil.  He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.

 Leadership and decision-making authority at Upwards Church are acknowledged by service, Christ-like character; and for elders, calling, and evidence of calling.

Matthew 25:23 “Well done, good and faithful servant!  You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things.”

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