Let’s undress this topic, pun intended. More importantly let’s look at what God says about S.E.X.
Sex is
Supernatural.
The word supernatural it indicates something out of this world, divine or of God. Sex is supernatural because God created it. Sex was His plan, His idea, so it’s not dirty, sinful or shameful. It’s “very good” like the the rest of what God created. “God saw all that He had made, and it was very good.” Genesis 1:31a
Much in God’s creation is majestic and mysterious and therefore supernatural. Sex is one of those things. We didn’t discover sex during the sexual revolution. God gave us sex from the beginning and before sin ever entered the human equation,
“Be fruitful and increase in number; Genesis 1:28 In other words, Get it on!
It freaks some people out to connect God and sex. Culture has removed God from sex. Often we often think of sex as something R rated. Or reduce it to a natural urge like eating, but its more. Sex is also supernatural because it creates oneness: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
“…and they will become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24b Oneness.
God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit, the trinity are united. Three in one. When a couple engages in sexual intercourse in marriage you have the male character qualities of God and the female character qualities of God coming together as one. Sex is not just sex:
Sex is two souls touching.
When two souls touch they have the power to produce another soul!! Now THAT is supernatural! How many times have you said or heard people say, “the birth of a child is a miracle.” It is, its supernatural because of sex caused it, and God created it that way. Living Sperm, living egg = new life! It’s not just for the back seat of car for dating, its oneness and holiness.
We have to have a mental modification to grab hold of this. Sex is supernatural. Sex is also for our…
Enjoyment.
Smile! Because sex for our enjoyment! Don’t be bashful about it! Sex was created for our enjoyment.
Some people think, “Sex is for procreation.” Yes, but sex is also for…Recreation!
If it was only for procreation, we would be like animals. Sex would be a duty to get over with and move on. But God created it for enjoyment.
If sex were only for procreation then we would not enjoy sex before and after we have children. Niki and I have three children. The party didn’t stop!
The way God created us to have sex as humans is different than with animals. With animals, the male is looking at the back of the female… (dogs, cattle, horses – they just jump on the other’s back! ) Be glad you’re not a turtle, chicken or duck – they bite the heck out of the female first!! In humans, God designed us to be face to face. Think about it, why? Animals are drawn to each other only certain times/cycles. Humans are drawn most any time.
The Bible talks a lot about the enjoyment of sex to satisfy one another. “May her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” Proverbs 5:19
“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.” Proverbs 5:18 Do I really need to explain what a fountain is? The bible calls the man a fountain or a spring and a woman a well. Yes, its in the bible! Notice the other words that describe sexual enjoyment: “satisfy.” ” intoxicated with love,” “rejoice.”
Also the entire book of Song of Solomon has parts that are very erotic and in Hebrew lingo very graphic! The whole book shares about the enjoyment of marital sex.
And the very difficult thing is when you don’t enjoy sex with your spouse. Some don’t have a healthy view of sex. Maybe you brought baggage into the relationship, molestation, rape, abuse. Perhaps you grew up hearing, “it’s dirty, you will get diseases, Don’t do it, don’t do it. ” And that’s set into your mind so that you think that sex is some type of an ugly thing…. Not the beautiful gift that God intended it to be.
We cannot dislike something that God says to “rejoice” in.
What does it say to your spouse if you dread that intimate time with them? It devalues them, it just says, “You’re not important to me.” And God wants us to enjoy it. If we do enjoy it, again, that’s going to be evident in every area, not just the physical. It flows and goes into every aspect of our relationship.
“The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” Genesis 2:25
There is no shame in God’s game. No shame. So it’s for our enjoyment.
The next naked truth: S.E.X. is
eXclusive Husband & Wife in the bond/commitment/ covenant of marriage.
God created sex for the context of marriage. He created it for us to be fruitful, to multiply, to enjoy it, but he also says it’s exclusive. It’s a beautiful gift that God has given a man & woman in the unbreakable bond of marriage. Jesus also affirms God’s plan from the beginning when asked about divorce, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Matthew 19: 4
A marriage ceremony unites a couple in the sight of man, Sex unites a couple in the sight of God. Have you heard of the term, consummate the marriage?” In times past, a wedding ceremony occurred in a church, then it wasn’t official until “consummated” in a marriage bed.
It’s the issue of content and context. The content: sex. God says use the content (sex) in my context (the marriage bed). The result: You’ll achieve your destiny. We have have freedom of choice given to us by God. We can chose to take the content and use it out of context. But, the result will be chaos.
Sex is like a the fire place in your house- the fire goes in there and creates warmth and intimacy but if it gets out, it can cause untold hurt and damage.
Some say, “That’s what are condoms are for.” I would say there is no condom for a broken heart. Sex is not just physical. It’s emotional, relational and spiritual. Sex unites physically, emotionally, relationally and spiritually.
I hear some many people say, “Everybody is doing it. Come on, you must live under a rock!” Well, no. I want to challenge you to know God’s purpose and plan for what He created.
Some think, “We need to test the waters because to make sure we are physically compatible.” I want to challenge you. You concern yourselves about the spiritual compatibility and God will take care of the physical compatibility.
He provides! But some may think, “I know better than God. I’m the sexpert! ”
Niki have been married for almost 20 years. We dated for almost a year. We remained pure during our year of dating. It was not easy because we are people like everybody else. We set boundaries as we were dating to protect ourselves. Can tell you that we did not test the waters of sex before marriage and God took care of it, OK? He took care of it!
Great sex is not about testing the waters prior to marriage. It’s about trusting God and He will take care of it.
And if you are a virgin and you’re thinking about sleeping in the bed before marriage, I would tell you categorically from Scripture and experience with so many people, don’t do it!
God forgives, but he does not remove the consequences. It’s ideal; it’s the best to give that gift to your spouse when you’re married.
Some may say, “OK, my virginity is in the past tense. Is there hope for me still? Have I committed this unpardonable sin?” No.
I have sexual baggage from my past. Here’s what I have experienced and you can too! When you give your heart to Jesus Christ, like I have He power-washes your life and forgives you. And he takes on anything from your past that you’ve done, he takes it upon himself so that when we are standing before God, and God looks at our hearts, he sees Jesus. Not our sin, not our shame.
This passage illustrates this beautifully.
Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
To be “Washed” means Christ washes away of my past. To be “Sanctified” means Christ is growing me and changing me. To be “Justified” means, when I stand before God, he see’s Jesus. “Just-if-I’d” Never sinned. Isn’t that good new?!
That’s what Jesus did for me. I hope you will let him do that for you. Take back what the enemy has stolen! Sex is supernatural, enjoyable and exclusive.
Darrell
Upwards Church 