Sexperiment Day 4 Devotional – Singles

Posted on February 12, 2014 by dkoop

sexperimentDay 4 – Priority

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33

“Stop Making Sexcuses…”

We love to go retro these days. From cars to clothes, from music to makeup—retro is the way to go. But you can’t go retro without talking about time. And you can’t talk about time without thinking about priorities.

There seems to be a lot of hype about setting priorities, but God has already given us the blueprints on where we need to spend our time. It’s not about setting our priorities. It’s about agreeing with God on what our priorities already are.

Priorities are simply saying yes to the best. But for many of us, there is a huge gap between our priorities and our commitments. Instead of saying yes to the best, we say yes to the good or just good enough. And over time, the good crowds out the best.

Do you ever get to the end of your day and wonder, “Where did the time go? Did I accomplish anything I set out to do?” One of the best ways to ensure that you set your days on the right path is to spend some time with the Author of time.

This week, make it a point to spend some quiet, personal time with God. Give him the first few moments of each day. When you do, the gap between your priorities and commitments will begin to close and you will begin to see that God’s priorities will give you freedom.

Answer the following

  • How do you determine your priorities?
  • How well do you think your priorities line up with God’s priorities for your life?
  • Do your current commitments support God’s priorities for you?
  • What “good” commitments do you have in your life that you need to let go of in  order to say “yes to the best”?

 Take Action

Commit to spending 5-10 minutes of each morning with God this week. Seek His guidance in aligning your priorities with His.

 Go Further

Read the section The Yoke is Not a Joke on pages 113-114 of Sexperiment book.

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Sexperiment Day 4 Devotional – Married

Posted on February 12, 2014 by dkoop

sexperimentDay 4 – Priority

 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5

“Stop Making Sexcuses… and Start Making Love”

The Bible never says how often a husband and wife should have sex. It does, though, tell us that it is unhealthy for a couple to abstain from sex for an extended period of time. The break in physical intimacy only allows Satan to infiltrate the marriage with temptation.

This passage does give one specific reason to abstain for a time, but both husband and wife must agree. The one reason is an extended season of prayer. But you don’t have stop having sex in order to enjoy the incredible benefits of praying together and for each other. Praying with your spouse takes vulnerability that will accelerate your bond emotionally and spiritually. This emotional and spiritual connection will, in turn, lead you back to a time of physical connection.

Prayer coupled with an obedient life will give you God’s perspective on what you should be saying “yes” and “no” to together. Get ready to say “yes” to the best and “yes” to sex with your spouse when you prioritize with God’s help.

If you are consistently too tired or too busy for sex with your spouse, consider the words from the passage above. They are still applicable today.

After this week of the Sexperiment, maintain your connection with your spouse—intentionally and regularly. Continue using these seven days as a model of intimacy for your marriage 365 days a year.

 Discuss The Following

  • Ask your spouse, “Do you feel your needs and desires are being met often enough on a weekly or monthly basis?”
  • Ask your spouse, “Would you say our love making is a priority to me in respect to the time and creativity I invest into it?”
  • Answer this together, “What are actions we could take together to remove the obstacles that keep us from having sex more often with each other?”

 Take Action

  • Make a list of the “sexcuses” that have blocked intimacy in your marriage.
  • Discuss your feelings about them and make a firm commitment that none of them will bereasons for not completing the sexperiment.

Go Further

  • Read the introductory section on pages 35-51 of Sexperiment book.
  • Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on page 53 of Sexperiment.book

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SEX Ridge For more about the Sex series or to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

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Sexperiment Day 3 Devotional – Singles

Posted on February 11, 2014 by dkoop

sexperimentDay 3 – Purity

I put this in human terms because you are weak in your natural selves. Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness leading to holiness. Romans 6:19

 “It’s Not About Just Sex. It’s About Just Sex!”

With most of the popular television sitcoms, series, and late night talk shows coming on after the workday has ended, the prime time audience is growing. It’s almost impossible not to notice the easily accessible, irresistible action and drama centered plots in the television line up. But just as the regular prime time audience is growing, so is the audience that is getting the message of sex on a constant basis.

The most recent statistics show that even children are inundated with sexual content—up to 14,000 times a year on television alone!

Sexual innuendos and sex scenes are available nearly every time you turn on the television, listen to the radio, or search the Internet. Everyone has access to sexual content in today’s technologically advanced world. People all over the globe are tricked  by the subtlety of sex and the shallow message the world promotes. Too often they think that message is harmless. But the truth of the matter is that it breeds lust, and lust leads to destruction.

God tells us in Scripture that we are to “flee” from sexual immorality. He doesn’t tell us that we are to nonchalantly look the other way—we are to flee. That means that we are to turn 180° and run

When you choose to flee from lust, you are actually choosing to run directly towards God. Today, choose to offer your mind to things that honor God rather than entertaining thoughts of lust. When you feel the pull of sex outside of marriage, read God’s word, call a trusted friend, or physically walk away from the situation.

By fleeing those times, you’ll discover the amazing plan God has for your life.

 Answer The Following

  •  In view of the blatant ways in which culture talks about sex, how does your life portray the biblical viewpoint?
  • We can’t ignore every message our culture sends about sex. How do you keep focused on God’s message despite the numerous distractions?
  • Give an example of something that you can literally “flee” from in order to stay committed to God.

 Take Action                   

  • Take time to evaluate the television, music, movies and magazines that are a part of your life. If you discover any of these are pulling you away from God’s plan for your sexuality, make a change and remove them.

Go Further

  • Read the section Before You Do on pages 134-135 of Sexperiment.

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SEX RidgeFor more about the Sex series or to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

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Sexperiment Day 3 Devotional – Married

Posted on February 11, 2014 by dkoop

sexperimentDay 3 – Purity

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure..Hebrews 13:4

 “It’s Not Just about Sex. It’s about Just Sex”

We have all heard the saying, “Gentlemen don’t kiss and tell.” But according to the Bible, this is sound policy for both men and women.

There is a quiet, but destructive force unleashed when we share the intimate details of our sex life with anyone other than our spouse. You may not notice the waves of destruction immediately, but they inevitably crash against the shores of your marriage, eroding your trust and confidence in one another.

If you want to talk about sex, talk about it with your spouse. Communication is a key to satisfying sex. Let your husband or wife know your likes and dislikes, your desires, wants and needs. If this is uncomfortable for you, you may need to start your discussions slowly and build a comfort level over time.

No matter what you do, though, do not violate the trust you share by telling others about what happens in your marriage bed. You don’t have to keep it between the sheets; but you do need to keep it between you and your spouse!

 Discuss The Following

  • Ask your spouse, “On a scale of 1 to 10, how comfortable are you talking about sex with me? What are some things that would make you feel more comfortable?”
  • Fill in the blank: You can help me keep the highest level of purity in our marriage by __________________________________________________________.

 Take Action

  • Spend some time flirting with each other, being romantic toward each other, and building your desire for each other.

 Go Further

  • Read the section What’s Lust Got to Do with It? on pages 117-119 of Sexperiment.
  • Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on pages 133-134 of Sexperiment.

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SEX Ridge

For more about the Sex series or to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

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