Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure..Hebrews 13:4
“It’s Not Just about Sex. It’s about Just Sex”
We have all heard the saying, “Gentlemen don’t kiss and tell.” But according to the Bible, this is sound policy for both men and women.
There is a quiet, but destructive force unleashed when we share the intimate details of our sex life with anyone other than our spouse. You may not notice the waves of destruction immediately, but they inevitably crash against the shores of your marriage, eroding your trust and confidence in one another.
If you want to talk about sex, talk about it with your spouse. Communication is a key to satisfying sex. Let your husband or wife know your likes and dislikes, your desires, wants and needs. If this is uncomfortable for you, you may need to start your discussions slowly and build a comfort level over time.
No matter what you do, though, do not violate the trust you share by telling others about what happens in your marriage bed. You don’t have to keep it between the sheets; but you do need to keep it between you and your spouse!
Discuss The Following
- Ask your spouse, “On a scale of 1 to 10, how comfortable are you talking about sex with me? What are some things that would make you feel more comfortable?”
- Fill in the blank: You can help me keep the highest level of purity in our marriage by __________________________________________________________.
- Spend some time flirting with each other, being romantic toward each other, and building your desire for each other.
- Read the section What’s Lust Got to Do with It? on pages 117-119 of Sexperiment.
- Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on pages 133-134 of Sexperiment.
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