Understanding the Mystery of Sex

SEX RidgeSex is one of our biggest preoccupations — causing thrills, heartache and downright confusion. But until recently, exactly what happens in the brain during sex was something of a mystery to scientists.

The bible agrees,

And the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mysteryEphesians 5:31-32  (NIV)

Now, however, American researchers have uncovered some of what goes on.

Bonding Agents

A key hormone released during sex is oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle hormone’. This lowers our defenses and makes us trust people more.   It’s also the key to bonding, as it increases levels of empathy. Women produce more of this hormone, although it’s not clear why, and this means they are more likely to let their guard down and fall in love with a man after sex.

However, the problem is that the body can’t distinguish whether the person we’re with is a casual fling or your marriage partner — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short-term relationship ends.

In men, more dopamine is released — the pleasure hormone.  And this surge can be addictive,’ says Dr Ghosh.   That’s why so many more men tend to suffer from sex addiction.

More Brain Activity

The scientists from Rutgers University, New Jersey, found that up to 30 different parts of the brain are activated, including those responsible for emotion, touch, joy, satisfaction and memory.

There is a known circuit in the brain that’s involved in feeling happy,’ explains Paul Thompson, professor of neurology at the University of California, Los Angeles, and an expert in brain imaging.

‘This is called the limbic region, which is deep in the brain, and it’s more active when we’re rewarded.  ‘During sex there’s more blood flow to the head, more neurons firing, more brain activity.

‘Much of this deep brain circuit runs on the hormone dopamine. Anything pleasurable tends to cause these brain cells to exude more of it and this makes them fire faster.’

‘Without doubt, sex has not only physical but psychological and social benefits, too,’ says Dr Ghosh.

New Brain Cells and Less Dementia

Many of us are all too aware that our brain cells decline with age. In fact, it’s said we lose 7,000 brain cells a day by the time we’re 35, which makes rather depressing reading.

The good news, however, is that having regular sex may help us grow new brain cells, according to scientists from Princeton University in the United States.

And the more sex you have, the more cells you can grow, it seems. Animal studies, published in the journal PLoS ONE, suggest that sex stimulates the growth of brain cells in the hippocampus, the part of the brain responsible for memory and learning.

Factors such as stress and depression have been shown to shrink the hippocampus, yet exercise and sex counteract this effect.

Furthermore, sex could actually be protecting our brain cells against decline.

‘There is some evidence that older people who are sexually active are less likely to have dementia and this could be for a variety of complex reasons,’ says Dr Ghosh.

Sex causes increased blood flow to the brain, which improves oxygen levels.

‘MRI scans have shown that during orgasm the neurons in the brain are more active and use more oxygen,’ explains Barry Komisaruk, professor of psychology at Rutgers University and a leading authority on sex and neuroscience.

‘It appears that the more active the neurons, the more oxygen they withdraw from the blood — so more oxygenated blood is supplied to the region, delivering a fresh supply of nutrients.’

But as well as boosting brain cells, sex could also sharpen a woman’s mind, says Dr Ghosh. That’s due to a surge in sex hormones, particularly testosterone, which can help improve concentration and reaction times.

Less Depression

‘The endorphins released during sex can really help treat depression and clear the mind.

‘One is serotonin, also called the happy hormone, which creates a sense of bliss. People often say that sex is the last thing they feel like doing when they’re depressed, but do try it if you can.

‘And don’t worry if you get emotional afterwards.. This is caused by a combination of endorphins being released and heightened emotions.’

A Natural Painkiller

Orgasm can block pain signals, says Professor Komisaruk. Research using laboratory animals and humans has found that orgasm can inhibit the release of pain transmitters from the spinal cord so they can’t reach the neurons in the brain that respond to pain.

In fact, he says, it can raise the pain threshold so much that the equivalent effect in morphine is three times the usual pain-relieving dose.

But experts say that for many people — especially women — the mind plays a key role in achieving orgasm.

Better Sleep

If you’re struggling to nod off, it’s better to have sex than take a sleeping pill, says Dr Ghosh.

‘In fact, it’s more beneficial to have sex in the evening rather than the morning because the body wants to be relaxed afterwards, not get up and go to work.

‘By having sex at the end of the day you’ll reap more of the stress-relieving benefits.  For a man, a powerful orgasm is the equivalent of having on average a 2-3mg shot of diazepam (or Valium).

‘That’s why so many men nod off afterwards — there really is a biological reason for this.’

Smooching Means Better Sex

You’ll have much better sex if you kiss before intercourse.  The lips are packed with nerve endings — 100 times more than the fingertips.

As a result, kissing kick-starts multiple mechanisms in the brain, releasing chemicals that lower stress and boost mood, says Dr Ghosh.

It increases levels of the pleasure hormones and will make you a lot more receptive to what happens later.

‘That’s why loving sex can be more satisfying than a quickie — and that endorphin hit from dopamine is especially important for women.’

For more about the Sex series, to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

 Adapted from : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2031498/Sex-Why-makes-women-fall-love–just-makes-men-want-MORE.html#ixzz2snAYC3uD

 

 

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Sexperiment Day 2 Devotional – Singles

sexperimentDAY 2 – UNITY

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14

 “THE MATH OF MARRIAGE IS 1+1=1”

Ninety percent of all single adults will marry at least one time during their lives. But a quick look at the divorce statistics show us the reality that most people aren’t dating the right way.

Why is there such a crisis in the dating world? Why the gap between the chances of marriage happening and the chances of a marriage lasting?

Think of it this way. Imagine trying to change the oil in a Ferrari by reading the owner’s manual of a Ford F-250. It wouldn’t work. The same concept is true when it comes to relationships.

When Christ told us to only date and marry other Christians, he wasn’t trying to rain on our relational parade. He knew we would all face tough times in life and love.  And he knew that the only way we could make it successfully through those times is for both sides to rely solely on him.

When it comes to your relationships, avoid the wreckage. Unite your heart with those who have united themselves to Christ. Look to get involved in the local church and revolve your social schedule around it. Turn to the only Guide who can direct you down the right path—God. And pray for God’s guidance so you can make the right decision when choosing those you date.

 ANSWER THE FOLLOWING

  • As you think about the most recent people you have dated, how many of them believed the same about Jesus as you do?
  • List the character traits you are looking for in a potential mate. Which ones have you been tempted to compromise and why do you think that was?

TAKE ACTION

  • Take time to write down a more comprehensive description of what you are looking for in someone you want to marry. Knowing what you desire will help you know what to look for.

 GO FURTHER

Read the section “Before You Do” on page 78 of Sexperiment book.

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Day_2-Unity-Singles

 

SEX RidgeFor more about the Sex series, to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

 

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Sexperiment Day 2 Devotional – Married

sexperimentDAY 2 – UNITY

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

“THE MATH OF MARRIAGE IS 1+1=1”

In the passage above, we read about God’s desire for husband and wife to “become one flesh.” That word “become” insinuates a process. You don’t meet Mr. Right or

Ms. Perfect one day and all of a sudden you are one flesh. The process of becoming

one flesh is a lifelong pursuit in marriage that takes constant commitment, intimacy, and connection from both people.

Whether you have been married for 5 days, 5 years or 5 decades, your marriage takes work. Becoming one flesh with your spouse requires intentional effort and energy. So enjoy this week of the 7 Day Sex Challenge and use it as a launching pad to start (or continue) your process of becoming one flesh.

Make your time together this week the top priority. Each morning, pray for God to reveal to you ways you can show your spouse just how much becoming one flesh means to you. And look for ways to place priority on sex by rearranging your schedule or even saying no to some other things that present themselves.

Remember, this week is all about strengthening your marriage. Use each day to build a strong connection and bond together.

 DISCUSS THE FOLLOWING

  • List some areas of your relationship where you regularly feel united with your spouse.
  • List some areas that have taken time for you to feel united.
  • Ask each other, “When conflict arises what is the best way for me to communicate with you my desire to be unified and for us to be reconciled?”

 TAKE ACTION

  • Take the necessary measures to clear up any lingering friction between you, or at least agree that past issues will not be allowed to interfere with your sexperiment.

 GO FURTHER

  • Read the section What’s Your Marital Work Ethic (MWE)? on pages 15-18 of Sexperiment book.

Read about additional action steps in this area of your marriage on pages 31-32 of Sexperiment book.

To download the PDF, click below:

Day_2-Unity-Married

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Sexperiment Day 1 Devotional – Singles

DAY 1 – DIVINITY 

sexperimentI have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation…I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:12-13

“SEX IS VERTICAL BEFORE IT’S HORIZONAL”

We live in a very couples-driven culture. Seems everything is tailored for two: roller coasters, the smallest restaurant table is set for two, just to name…two. So many people hook up with others for the sake of not being alone. We have been wired to believe that happiness is found in finding someone else, and we are often pressured to find someone to “complete” us.

One of the most common deceptions about the single life is that it is not as fulfilling or rewarding as married life. Many people go through life believing they will never be happy until they are married. But don’t fall for that lie.

If you are desperately seeking the secret of contentment, you will find exactly what you need in one place—Jesus Christ. Jesus wants to fill those lonely areas in your life with something much more powerful than any human connection. He wants to fill them with supernatural contentment. Once you have a Christ centered life God will bring you into relationship with many Christ centered people when you choose to get connected in the local Church. Don’t rely on a man or woman to fill a void that only God can fill.

Enjoy being single! Find comfort in the fact that Jesus was single for his entire life.

He faced the same temptations that you face today; yet, he remained faithful to God’s plan for his life and found supernatural contentment in being single. You can too.

 ANSWER THE FOLLOWING

  • What are some of the advantages you experience from being single?
  • What are you doing today to connect with others who share your character and Godly standards?
  • What is something you need to change so that you can find more fulfillment in being single?

 TAKE ACTION

  • Think of one thing you can do in the next 24 hours that you couldn’t do if you were not single and enjoy it.

GO FURTHER

  • Read the section Before You Do on pages 32-33 of Sexperiment book

To download the PDF click below:

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SEX RidgeFor more about the Sex series, to sign up for a Sexperiment Growth Group go to www.RidgeFellowship.com

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