Song of Solomon Ch. 2:8-3:11 Commentary

Posted on February 16, 2016 by dkoop

RPM-Poster copyLove is an Adventure. After the banquet, Solomon leaves and the Shulamite went back to her normal life, but her eyes and ears were always open as she anticipated his return. Then it happened! One day as she was in her brothers’ home, she heard his voice and saw him coming toward her bounding across every barrier that stood between him and his beloved. He stopped at the wall that protected the house and looked at her through the lattice window. Then he spoke to her and twice invited her to “come away!”

2:8-9. As Solomon approached his beloved’s home, she excitedly described him coming as a gazelle or a young stag  This emphasized his attractive appearance, strength, and agility. He approached the wall around her parents’ home and then peered through the lattice. He was anxious to see her.

2:10-13. Solomon, her lover, asked his darling to go for a walk in the countryside. At the beginning and ending of his invitation he said, Come with me . The elaborate description of spring was probably meant to do more than simply emphasize the beauty of the setting. It is likely that he was also describing their relationship. In a sense when one falls in love the feeling is like spring for everything seems fresh and new. The world is seen from a different perspective, which is how Solomon felt when he was with his beloved. Several statements refer to the beauty of spring: (1) The winter is past. The word for winter (set̠aw, used only here in the OT) refers to the cloudy season of March and April with the “latter” rains. (2) Flowers appear in the spring, adding delightful colors to the landscape, causing people to sing for joy. (3) Doves coo, “announcing” spring’s arrival. (4) Fig trees put forth their early fruit (cf. Nahum 3:12). The early figs were either those that had remained unripened on the trees from the previous summer and then ripened at the beginning of spring, or were small edible buds that appeared in March. (5) Grape vines blossom, giving off their fragrance just before the grapes appear.  Spring stimulates the senses of sight, sound, taste, and smell.

2:14. Another characteristic of genuine love is the desire to be alone with one’s lover. This desire seems to be easily experienced during courtship, but unfortunately it often fades in marriage. Yet if love is to grow a couple must find time to be alone. Doves hide in rock crevices, reluctant to leave. The lover likened his beloved to such a dove, hesitant to join him in the countryside. So again he urged her to leave her home and join him so he could enjoy her sweet-sounding voice and lovely face.

2:15. She was probably speaking poetically about their relationship rather than about literal foxes and vineyards. Foxes were noted for their destructive tendencies in crop fields, so her reference to those animals probably suggested metaphorically some problems in their relationship. The beloved was asking her lover to take the initiative in solving the problems that were potentially harmful to their relationship. “The foxes represent as many obstacles or temptations as have plagued lovers throughout the centuries. Perhaps it is the fox of uncontrolled desire which drives a wedge of guilt between a couple. Perhaps it is the fox of mistrust and jealousy which breaks the bond of love. Or it may be the fox of selfishness and pride which refuses to let one acknowledge his fault to another. Or it may be an unforgiving spirit which will not accept the apology of the other. These foxes have been ruining vineyards for years and the end of their work is not in sight” (S. Craig Glickman, A Song for Lovers, pp. 49-50). Even in ideal courtships and marriages most couples encounter some potentially destructive problems. Their willingness to solve them together is an evidence of their maturity.

2:16-17. Though they had some problems in their relationship, the beloved knew that her lover belonged to her and she belonged to him. They were committed to each other. She could rest in the shepherd-like quality of his love despite the struggles they shared. She said he browses (lit., “he pastures” his flock) among the lilies . Her thoughts of their mutual possession of each other naturally led to her desire for physical intimacy. So in her mind she invited him to turn (i.e., to her) with the strength and agility of a gazelle or… young stag. Rugged hills (hārê b̠āt̠er) is literally, “hills or mountains of separation or cleavage.” Some say this refers to actual mountains—perhaps “hills of Bether” (niv marg.), though the location of such a site is unknown.  It seems preferable to take this as a reference to her breasts, thus an inner longing that they consummate their marriage. If that is the meaning, then she wanted that intimacy to last during the night till the day breaks (lit., “breathes”) at dawn and the night shadows vanish. When their marriage was consummated they did this (see 4:5-6). As already stated, in expressing their love in their courtship, the beloved and her lover used restraint. Yet because of their deep love and commitment to each other they longed for their wedding day to come.

Fear of Losing Her Lover 

3:1-4.  Solomon returned to Jerusalem, leaving his beloved at her home in the country. The phrase All night long on my bed indicates that the experience she was describing took place in a dream. When a person loves another person deeply, it is natural to fear losing him or her. In her dream she lost her lover and sought to find him. The repeated expression the one my heart loves (once in each of these four verses) revealed the depth of her love for Solomon.

In her dream she went to a city (either a town near her home or Jerusalem) to look for him, but she was unsuccessful. She even asked the watchmen, men who guarded the city at night, if they had seen him. Apparently they had not. When she found him in her dream, she took him to her mother’s house, the most secure place she knew.

The Refrain (3:5)

This refrain marks the end of the section on the courtship (1:2-3:5) and the beginning of the wedding section (3:6-5:1). Perhaps the wedding was to be seen as a reward for patience on the beloved’s part.

 The Wedding (3:6-11)

Marriages in the ancient Near East were usually sanctioned through civil contracts rather than through religious ceremonies. Except for Proverbs 2:17 and Malachi 2:14 marriage covenants or contracts are not mentioned in the Old Testament. However, examples of Jewish civil marriage contracts have been found in the remains of the Jewish colony at Elephantine, Egypt dating back to the fifth century b.c. The marriage of Ruth and Boaz before a court of elders rather than before priestly officials (cf. Ruth 4:10-11) also illustrates the “civil” rather than religious character of wedding ceremonies. It is not surprising, therefore, to find that weddings took place not in the temple (or later in the synagogue), but rather in the couples’ homes.

A central feature of a wedding ceremony was a procession to the bride’s home led by the groom, who then escorted her back to their new residence. Next a wedding feast was given which lasted up to a week or even longer. Though the feast was prolonged the couple consummated their marriage on the first night. The wedding feast is not described in the Song of Songs but both the wedding procession (Song 3:6-11) and the wedding night (Song 4:1-5:1) are presented in some detail.

Song 3:6. The author spoke as a narrator in this verse, as if he were a spectator watching the approaching wedding procession, which was elaborate. What at first appeared in the distance to be a great column of smoke.  There was incense burning in front of the procession. The fact that the incense was made from all the spices of the merchant emphasizes the costly nature of this display. The myrrh added another fragrance to the procession.

The pomp and beauty of this procession were wholly appropriate in light of the event’s significance. The Scriptures teach that marriage is one of the most important events in a person’s life. Therefore it is fitting that the union of a couple be commemorated in a special way. The current practice of couples casually living together apart from the bonds of marriage demonstrates how unfashionable genuine commitment to another person has become in contemporary society. This violates the sanctity of marriage and is contrary to God’s standards of purity.

3:7-8. The 60 warriors accompanying Solomon’s carriage were friends of he groom. It was common for a groom’s friends to go with him in the wedding procession. But they were also the noblest and most experienced soldiers in Israel, probably Solomon’s royal bodyguard. David had a bodyguard (2 Sam. 23:23) and so possibly did Solomon. Since the caravan may have had to travel some distance (cf. “coming up from the desert,” Song 3:6, and note also the mention of Lebanon in 4:8, 15), the king was taking no chances with the safety of his bride. If bandits would appear at night and terrorize the bride, the soldiers were ready for them. The lesson is valid today for a would-be husband. He should give proper thought and planning to protect his bride. One form this takes is providing economic security for her.

3:9-11. Solomon’s carriage was made of the very best, that is, wood from Lebanon (possibly his bride’s homeland; cf. 4:8, 15). The carriage was adorned with the most expensive materials, silver… gold, and purple (representing royalty) fabric. Solomon offered his bride the best he had. And his love for her brought out the best in him. Others shared the couple’s joy by helping prepare for the procession (the daughters—female inhabitants—of Jerusalem helped make the interior of the carriage and did so gladly) and by watching it (look at King Solomon). In the procession he wore a crown. This was not his royal crown, but a crown… his mother (Bathsheba, 1 Kings 2:13) gave him; it probably depicted happiness more than royalty.

Next week, we will read about the couple’s wedding night as they have sex in Chapter 4.

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Attraction and Dating (Song of Solomon 1)

Posted on February 9, 2016 by dkoop

RPM-Poster copyIf your married or dating isn’t it great to remember when you first met?   It’s a question that always comes up,  “So, how did you guys meet?”  I’ll never forget the day that Niki and I met, it was July 4th, 1994.  I was doing Youth Ministry, teaching Driver’s Ed, and in Seminary with no hope for meeting a girl my age.  We were introduced by a guy that I went to Texas A & M with, Greg McKeever. He was from Waxahachie TX, attending medical school in San Antonio.  He dropped by with two girls one of them was Niki.  One of the first things he said was, “Hey Darrell, you like my new BF Goodrich tires?  There’s two beautiful women and we’re talking about tires! There’s a lot that I don’t understand about relationships.  That is why I’m grateful there is an entire book of the Bible dedicated to relationships!

It’s called the Song of Solomon or the Song of Songs, whichever way you hear it, it’s the same book.  It’s tucked away in the Old Testament.  It will give us principles and insight into how to deal with the relationships that we find ourselves in.  It applies to everyone.  Statistics say that ninety-four percent of people will marry at least once in their lifetime.  Seventy-five percent of people who are divorced will remarry within two years.  Wherever you are, single or married this book will give you some great tips and insight.  If you are married and your relationship is barely hanging on then this book can help you take some steps to move forward.  If your relationship is going great then the Song of Solomon will help it become even better!

Here is what’s interesting to me.  We will go to college, or a trade school, and go for four years to get all kinds of information so we move into a career path and get a job.  Yet we spend hardly any time learning relational skills.  Over these next five weeks we’re going to look at relationships, passion and marriage that will serve as vital information to help us grow relationally.   Open up your heart to these principles and let God move.  I believe He’ll do a wonderful and amazing work in you relationships.  Also I want to let you know about our GROWTH GROUPS that are for relationships.  Go here to find the Love and Respect Group, Top 10 Relational Needs, Several Saturday workshops and Premarital Training that will get $65 off your Marriage License in the state of Texas.

Three thousand years ago a guy by the name of Solomon wrote a love song.  Solomon was the king over Israel from 97 – 931 B.C.  He reigned in Israel for forty years in peace. He took over the throne when he was twenty years old.  He wrote over three thousand proverbs, from what the Bible tells and 1005 psalms.  A lot of his proverbs are mentioned in the book of Proverbs but we only have one song mentioned in the Bible.  It’s this book, the Song of Solomon.  You’ll find it tucked away in your Old Testament, about in the middle of your Bible.

Have you seen the Disney movie, Cinderella? Did you know there are over 1500 different versions of the Cinderella story?  Basically, it’s the story of a prince who falls in love with a peasant girl and develops this relationship.  Love causes them to conquer those differences that they would have faced.  There are all kinds of versions around the world.  But the oldest Cinderella story that I’m aware of is actually found in the Bible here. The Song of Solomon is a Cinderella story.

Once upon a time in the mountains of Ephraim, in the hill country, there was a king, who lent out a vineyard to a family.  That family worked the vineyard.  The parents had died, apparently.  There were two brothers and at least two sisters.  The brothers treated the girls very harshly, particularly one girl who they caused to do hard labor.  They caused her to work out in the field of the vineyard.  One day this young woman meets a shepherd.  This shepherd, as she begins to talk to him, develops a friendship.  As the shepherd comes back and that friendship begins to grow.  Eventually it grows into love.  Now, the shepherd says he’s going to come back and take the young woman’s hand in marriage but the brothers are skeptical about it.  They don’t believe it.  Then the shepherd goes away for a long time.  The young girl gets a summons to go visit the king.  She doesn’t understand what it’s about.  She goes before the king and when she walks in she sees the face of the shepherd, who was actually the king.  It’s the Cinderella story of the Song of Solomon.

What we have in this book, is this love song or love poem of them interacting with one another about their relationship.  It’s almost like they took a box of old photos and set it out on the coffee table.  They begin to take pictures out.  Look at this picture of when we were dating.  We get to look into their life from that point of view.  Look at this picture of when we are in conflict.  We can see how they dealt with conflict.  That’s how this whole song unfolds.

We don’t know the young woman’s name.  It just says in chapter six, verse thirteen that she’s a Shulammite.  Shulammite is simply, in the Hebrew language that the Bible was written in, is the feminine word for Solomon.  So basically, it’s the story of Mr. and Mrs. Solomon.  We begin to see how they interact.  Marriage and family therapists will tell you that there are some major landmines that every relationship will face and deal with.

Four of the most common landmines that couples experience are these:  money, communication, sex and religion.  Those four areas are huge areas of potential conflict in relationships.  As we look at the Song of Solomon, we’re going to learn some great principles for each.

First let’s examine the importance of character.  The Song of Solomon starts with the females, the Shulammite voice.  She says in chapter 1:2, “Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out.  No wonder the maidens love you!”

Remember this is poetry.  It’s a song so it’s not like reading an article in a magazine.  There’s a lot of flowery language.  There are a lot of metaphors and symbolism here.

She starts this love song by saying, “You know what Solomon, your scent is so pleasing to me.  Your fragrance draws me.”  Men in the Old Testament didn’t take a bath everyday.  But they would put oil or cologne on that would give them a certain fragrance or smell.

She says not only is he a wonderfully smelling person, “Your scent draws me to you externally, but “your name is like perfume poured out.”  This is very important.  The name in the Old Testament stood for a person’s character.

In Relationships:

1.   Character is Critical.

 It was their reputation.  She said, “Your name is so valuable its like perfume poured out.  It’s a sweet fragrance.”  In other words, you are not only beautiful on the outside; you are beautiful on the inside.  That’s what draws me to you.  Your character draws me to you.  This is so important for us to hear today.  Beauty is only skin deep.  Beauty fades, but character remains.   Looks are important, yes, but character is critical.

If you e in a dating relationship, I want to challenge you to put character at the top of the list of the qualities for the person you are looking for.  As I look around at our society, character seems to find it’s way at the bottom.  We think, “I’ll change him or her.” Not likely.   They may eventually change on their own but you are looking at a war if that’s the way you try to go about navigating a relationship.

How do you determine a person’s character?  How do you figure out who they really are in a dating relationship?  We get a couple principles out of this verse that we just read in the Song of Solomon.  Now I want to put it to you in the form of questions you can ask to help determine a character.

 Ways to Examine Character…

How does this person act under stress? How do they act when they are under pressure?  She said, “Solomon, your name is like perfume that’s poured out.”  The way they made perfume in that day, some translations translate that phrase “it’s like purified oil poured out.”  They would take olives and put them under incredible pressure.  Out of that pressure would come the oil that would become the cologne of their day.  If you want to determine what their character is really like then look at how they deal with pressure.  When they are under stress?  Watch how they handle that.  It will tell you a lot about who that person is.

What do others say about this person?  Another question to lay over a person’s life if you are in a dating relationship is this, what do others say about this person?  You should listen to the voices around you.  The Shulammite said, “Solomon, all the other maidens love you.”  The people loved him.  In other words, everyone says good things about you and I’m not ashamed to be in a relationship with you. Have you ever known someone who dated someone and kept it back in the closet?  My question is if you are not willing to take that relationship public, if this is a person you are not proud to be with then why are you in that dating relationship?  Let me tell you what’s happening.  If you are dating a bad boy because they’re bad or a bad girl because she’s bad and you’re in this relationship and ultimately see it going nowhere, here’s what’s happening…you’re shading your own character in that relationship.  Character matters.  Ecclesiastes 7:1 says this, “A good name is better than fine perfume.”  Is this person that you are with someone you wouldn’t be ashamed to take home and meet the parents?

How does this person treat others? Another question you can ask if you want to determine a person’s character is this, how does this person treat others?  If you are in a relationship and you are dating a guy and you’re dating him for a couple weeks and you notice him telling a lie to one of his friends, don’t be so naïve to think he wouldn’t tell a lie to you.  If you are in a dating relationship and this guy just stole from someone else don’t be so naïve to think that at some point he wouldn’t steal from you.  If he’ll do it to someone else, at some point he has every capability of doing it to you.  Look at how a person treats other people and you’ll get a real window into their character and who they are and how someday they may treat you.

Those are some critical questions.  External beauty is only skin deep.  Put character at the top of the list if you are in a dating relationship with another person.  Character is critical.

Another tip that we see here in the Song of Solomon is to

Communicate Love and Respect.

He Communicates Love.

For men to communicate love to the woman in their life is important.  Solomon has done that with this Shulammite.   In chapter one, verse five here’s what she says, “Dark am I, yet lovely, O daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon.  Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun.  My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I have neglected.”  A couple things we need to see here.  First of all, in our culture everyone is about getting a tan.  We go to great lengths to get a tan.  There are tanning beds, tanning salons and tanning lotion.

This had nothing to do with race.  In Solomon’s culture a tan implied that you were a laborer.  A tan implied that you had been working out in the fields.  She says, “Don’t look down at me.  Don’t despise me because of my skin.  I have a farmer’s tan to prove I’m not of the same social class that you are.” It’s something she doesn’t like about herself.  Don’t we all have things that we don’t like about ourselves?  She says, “I’m dark.  Don’t look down on me.”  Here’s what he does, Solomon communicates love to this woman to such a degree that you see her change over the course of the book.

In the early chapters you see some self-doubt expressed but as the book goes on she begins to find more and more confidence.  She’s gone from viewing herself as somebody who may be unacceptable or as someone who may not be as beautiful as someone else to seeing herself as the most valuable thing in his world.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Solomon says, “There is no one like you in my world.”  He has communicated that to her so that she understands it and receives it.

In chapter 1:9 Solomon says this, “I liken you, my darling…” That’s significant so I want to stop right there.  That phrase, “my darling” could literally be translated, “my female friend.”  They developed a friendship.  If you want a relationship that lasts, it has to be built on an intimate friendship.  You can get into a relationship based on sex.  Studies say that in as little as one year that relationship will dissolve if built on sex alone.  You can get in a relationship based on any number of things but the relationship that lasts is a relationship that’s anchored in a friendship and an intimacy.  He says, “I liken you my female friend.”  Do you know what I think the greatest challenge is in intimacy, in relationships today, is simply time.  We are so busy, aren’t we?  We are going in so many directions with so many responsibilities.  There are so many things that we need to do that it’s hard to find time to be around.

A relationship can only go so long if that friendship and time element starts to break down before it starts to drift.  We’ve got to work hard.  We’re going to look over the next six weeks how we can carve out time to develop that friendship and community.  Solomon says this in verse nine, “I liken you, my darling, to a mare harnessed to one of the chariots of Pharaoh. Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels.  We will make you earrings of gold, studded with silver.”  Just a word of caution here guys.  You probably don’t want to go home and when the wife walks out before a date say, “Honey, I liken you to a mare.”  She’ll say, “Are you calling me a fat horse?”

In Solomon’s culture it was different.  Mares weren’t harnessed to chariots.  In Egypt and other parts of that world it was a stallion that would be harnessed to a chariot.  If a stallion was about to charge into battle and someone were to bring out a mare, the stallions would be distracted.  Here’s what Solomon is saying, “You are like a mare hooked to a chariot.”  In other words, when you walk in the room, all my attention goes to you.  When you come into a room, everything stops.  You are my number one greatest distraction.  You are the only one I can think of.  He’s communicating love to her.

Here’s what Solomon has learned how to do, he shows us how to communicate love so she receives it.  He communicates love to her verbally so it changed her own image of herself and he’s communicated it to her with gifts.  It’s all these little things.  It’s not once a year.  It’s the little things that add up.  Tell her that you love her in front of her friends.   Tell her you love her hair.  Tell her you love the way she looks.  You love this about her.  You love that about her.   What you will find is that your love quota (your love ability) will begin to just rise in your household.  It will begin to rise in that dating relationship as you are communicating what the other person needs.  You are communicating it in a way that they need to hear.

She Communicates Respect.

As you look at the Song of Solomon you can just tell that she has so much respect for him.  It comes off of everything she says, even in those couple of verses that we just read.  “Your name is like a perfume poured out.”  She is drawn to him and she respects who he is as a person.  This is really, really important.  Ladies, hear me on this. I’m convinced men’s primary need is not simply love.  I think that’s a woman’s primary need.  A man’s primary need, even before love, is respect.   Ephesians 5:33 says this, first it speaks to husbands, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself.  The wife must respect her husband.”  It doesn’t say, “Husbands love your wives and wives love your husbands.”  It’s says, “Husbands love your wives and wives respect your husbands.”  Think about the implications of that.  I believe a woman’s primary need is to feel loved.  But a man’s primary need is to feel respected.  In fact, I read a poll where they sat down with four hundred different men and asked them this question:  If you had to choose between being alone and unloved for the rest of your life or being disrespected by everyone, which would you choose?  Seventy-four percent of men said they would choose to be alone and unloved the rest of their life rather than being disrespected.  Sometimes our problem might be that women are trying to love their men but what men need is respect.  Out of that respect, they will be motivated to love them and meet those needs. *There’s a whole book based on this called, “Love & Respect” it’s a best seller and a great group that we are offering!!  It’s at the Bennetsen’s house on Sunday evenings.  Sign up here.

One woman I read about started to implement this in her relationship.  She said this, “Just a few days ago I decided to tell my husband that I respect him.  I felt so awkward to say the words but I went for it.  The reaction was unbelievable.  He asked me what I respected about him.  I listed off a few things.  Although I could have said much more, I watched his demeanor change before my eyes.”  Too often we think that love needs to be unconditional but respect is earned.  Maybe at work, but not at home.   Love AND respect is unconditional.

Ladies respecting your man will begin to transform the way they love you and communicate their love to you.  It can take the relationship to a whole new level.

Next week we’ll look at how to have a healthy marriage.  We’ll discuss dating and why dating shouldn’t end when you walk down the aisle, we’ll look at conflict and how to reduce it and how to communicate show our commitment. When it comes to relationships the Song of Solomon has so much to say.   Until next week!

Darrell

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The Song of Songs Commentary 1:1-2:7

Posted on February 8, 2016 by dkoop

RPM-Poster copy1:1. This verse identifies the author of the Song as Solomon. As Israel’s third king Solomon ruled from 971 to 931 b.c. Solomon was more gifted with literary skill than any other king of Israel for he wrote 3,000 proverbs and 1,005 songs (1 Kings 4:32). It is appropriate that a subject as wonderful as romantic love is described in sublime language by a competent human author, writing of course under the Holy Spirit’s inspiration. Interestingly, of the more than 1,000 songs Solomon wrote, only this one was designed by God to be included in the biblical canon. Solomon is mentioned by name in six other verses: Song of Songs 1:5; 3:7, 9, 11; 8:11-12.

The title Song of Songs offers a clue to the interpretation of the work. It is one song out of many songs. The reader therefore is not to view the work as a collection of songs but rather as one unified song. The words “Song of Songs” suggest the superlative, as in “most holy” (Ex. 29:37) which is literally, “holy of holies.” As a superlative the title may mean that this is the best of Solomon’s 1,005 songs or, more likely, that this is the best of all songs. In either case the Song sets before its readers a paradigm for romantic love in courtship and marriage.

The Courtship

Though this section (1:2-3:5) abounds with expressions of sexual desire, great sexual restraint is exercised by the lovers. However, after the wedding procession (3:6-11) there is a no sexual restraint in the Song. So this section points up the fact that in romantic courtship restraint in sexual intercourse ought to be observed.

A. Introduction: The expressions of longing, insecurity, and praise (1:2-11)

1. The Theme of Longing (1:2-4)

The Song begins with a soliloquy by the beloved in which she first expressed her strong desire for her lover’s (Solomon’s) physical affection (kisses, 1:2). The rapid interchange between the third person (him, v. 2a, and his, vv. 2a, 4b) and the second person (your and you, vv. 2b-4a) is confusing to modern readers, but it was a regular feature of love poetry in the ancient Near East. This stylistic device gave a strong emotional quality to the poetry. When she spoke of his love (v. 2b) she was referring to the physical expressions of his love (the Heb. word for “love” is the pl. dōd̠m, also used in 4:10). The statement your love is more delightful than wine means that his physical affections were exhilarating, refreshing, and a great source of joy (cf. 1:4).

The pleasing aroma of his perfumes made him even more attractive to her. Mention of perfumes led her to compare his name to perfume. A person’s name represented his character or reputation (cf. 2 Sam. 7:9). So comparing Solomon’s name to perfume meant that his character was pleasing and attractive to the beloved. For this reason, she said, many were attracted to him.

The statement the king (cf. Song 1:12; 3:9, 11; 7:5) has brought me into his chambers may be rendered as a request: “May the king bring me into his chambers.” In this sense she was expressing her desire for intimacy and marriage with the lover. This matches the first part of 1:4, Take me away with you. In summary, this opening soliloquy suggests that physical desire is a characteristic of romantic love and that properly channeled the desire is good, not evil. One ought to be “intoxicated” with love for one’s own mate (cf. Prov. 5:18-19), rather than with wine, drugs, or other people. However, the choice of a marriage partner should be based on far more than purely physical considerations. The beloved’s speech indicates that the character (“name”) of a person is vitally important in the selection of one’s spouse.

Speakers in the Song of Solomon
The beloved Friends of the beloved Solomon

(the lover)

 God The beloved’s brothers
1:2-4a 1:4b
1:4c-7 1:8
1:9-10
1:11
1:12-14 1:15
1:16-2:1 2:2
2:3-13 2:14
2:15-3:11 4:1-15
4:16 5:1a-d 5:1e
5:2-8 5:9
5:10-16 6:1
6:2-3 6:4-9
6:10
6:11-12 6:13a 6:13b-7:9a
7:9b-8:4 8:5a
8:5b-7 8:8-9
8:10-12 8:13
8:14

1:4b. The beloved’s “friends” elsewhere referred to as the “daughters of Jerusalem” (v. 5; 3:10; 5:8, 16) and “daughters of Zion” (3:11), spoke in 1:4b. Many suggestions have been given concerning the identity of the “daughters of Jerusalem,” such as female wedding guests, ladies of the royal court, concubines in the royal harem. Most likely they refer to the female inhabitants of Jerusalem.

2. The Theme of Insecurity (1:5-8)

1:5-6. The beloved’s suntanned appearance (dark am I) revealed that she worked in the fields. This made her feel insecure (do not stare at me) among the city dwellers and in particular the women of Jerusalem. She compared her dark skin to the tents of Kedar, which were made of black goats’ hair. The people of Kedar were nomads in northern Arabia who descended from Ishmael (Gen. 25:13). They were known for their archery (Isa. 21:16-17) and flocks (Isa. 60:7; Jer. 49:28-29; Ezek. 27:21; also see Ps. 120:5; Isa. 42:11; Jer. 2:10). Apparently the tent curtains of Solomon were also black.

Her explanation for her dark appearance was almost an apology. Because of hard outdoor work in the vineyards, required of her by her brothers, she was forced to neglect the cultivation of her own vineyard, that is, herself and her appearance (cf. Song 8:12).

1:7. The beloved’s feelings of insecurity helped arouse in her a desire for her lover’s presence. She addressed him as though he were a shepherd (a common epithet for a man in ancient Near Eastern love poetry). The verse is either a soliloquy (assuming the lover is absent) or, if he is present, a request for a meeting later in the day. If she could not be with him she said she would be like a veiled woman. This enigmatic expression means either that she would be mistaken for a prostitute (cf. Gen. 38:14-15)

1:8. The reply in this verse is usually credited to the lover since he was addressed in the preceding question (v. 7). If Solomon is the speaker then the verse is probably a playful or teasing response. However, the verse seems too cold and distant in tone for Solomon. So it may be a disdainful reply by the friends: “If you, of all people, do not know where he is, go to the other shepherds where you really belong anyway” (graze your young goats).

3. The Theme of Praise (1:9-11)

1:9-11. The answer to the beloved’s feelings of insecurity (vv. 5-6) was the praise of her lover. Frequently he called her his darling (vv. 9, 15; 2:2, 10, 13; 4:1, 7; 5:2; 6:4). In ancient Arabic poetry, women were sometimes compared to horses as objects of beauty, but the reference in 1:9 is probably more specific. The words a mare harnessed to one of the chariots of Pharaoh is literally, “a mare among the chariots of Pharaoh.” Stallions, not mares, were used to pull chariots in antiquity. A mare, therefore, among the chariots might well start a chaotic experience. The point of the comparison is that in Solomon’s opinion she was as beautiful and sought after as if she were the only woman in a world full of men. When he further stated that she was beautiful with jewelry (earrings and necklaces, v. 10), the daughters of Jerusalem (we, v. 11) were forced to change their attitude of disdain (v. 6) and to agree with royal opinion. They even agreed to make her earrings. Verse 10 includes the first of numerous times in the book where he said she is beautiful (cf. v. 15 [twice]; 2:10, 13; 4:1 [twice], 7; 6:4; 7:1, 6). In summary, since the beloved had felt self-conscious about her appearance, the lover praised her physical beauty so that her detractors were forced to agree with him.

B. The growth of love and its intensity (1:12-2:7)

This section consists of a series of units in the progression of the lovers’ courtship. Their longing for and praise of each other expand and intensify, and the insecurity of the beloved is resolved. The first unit (1:12-2:6) records a growing intensity in desire, praise, and security. The refrain (2:7) is an appeal for patience since love cannot be forced.

1. Mutual Praise (1:12-2:6)

1:12-14. The beloved praised the king for his pleasing and attractive characteristics which were like perfume (cf. comments on v. 3) whose function was to attract rather than repel. He was constantly in her thoughts just as the smell of the myrrh (in her sachet around her neck) was constantly in her nostrils. Myrrh was a pleasant-smelling gum that exudes from small trees in Arabia. It is mentioned frequently in the Song of Songs (v. 13; 3:6; 4:6, 14; 5:1, 5 [twice], 13). All other men, compared with him, were like the desert. Among them he stood out like a beautiful cluster of flowers in a desert oasis. Henna (cf. 4:13) blossoms were white, and En Gedi was an oasis on the west coast of the Dead Sea. Earlier David had fled to En Gedi while running away from Saul (1 Sam. 23:29; 24:1).

1:15. The lover returned her praise by commending not only her beauty (beautiful occurs twice in this v.) but also her tranquil character. In antiquity doves (cf. 2:12, 14; 4:1; 5:2, 12; 6:9) were noted for their cleanliness and tranquility. “According to Rabbinic teaching, a bride who has beautiful eyes possesses a beautiful character; they are an index to her character” (S.M. Lehrman, “The Song of Songs,” in The Five Megilloth, p. 4).

1:16-17. Both of these verses may be seen as spoken by the beloved (rather than v. 16 by the beloved and v. 17 by the lover, as in the niv). Though she recognized his physical good looks (handsome) she was more taken by the charm of his personality (Oh, how charming!). The word “charming” means “pleasant” or “lovely” and the combination, handsome and pleasant, was as rare then as it is now. This is the first of about two dozen times she referred to him as my lover. The beams of cedars and the rafters made of firs probably do not refer to a literal building but figuratively to the pastoral setting in which they first met. This is also suggested by the verdant (green) bed (couch). The field where they fell in love and sat talking was green.

2:1. Here the beloved spoke of herself as a rose of Sharon, the fertile coastal region of Israel from Caesarea to Joppa. The Hebrew word for rose is ḥăb̠aṣṣelet̠. In Isaiah 35:1, its only other occurrence in the Old Testament, it is translated “crocus,” which may be the meaning here. It was a common meadow flower. The lily too was a common flower mentioned often in the Song of Songs (2:1-2, 16; 4:5; 5:13; 6:2-3; 7:2). Though in her humility she likened herself to common flowers of the field, her statement (2:1) reflects a significant contrast with her earlier self-consciousness (1:5-6). Her improvement probably was because of her lover’s praising her (1:9-10, 15).

2:2. The lover echoed his beloved’s newfound sense of worth by comparing her to a lily and all other women to thorns. He agreed that she was a lily (v. 1) but not just any lily! She was as unique among all others as a single lily would be among many thorns.

2:3-6. The beloved’s reciprocal praise of her lover was also expressed metaphorically. As an apple tree would be a delightful surprise in a forest so Solomon was a delightful and rare “find” among all the other men. He was unique, sweet, and fragrant.

The beloved’s praise of her lover reveals three aspects of romantic love that are important to women. First, she felt protected by him. Sitting in his shade was a metaphor for protection, not only in the Bible but also in the literature of the ancient Near East. She had worked in the sun (1:6) but now she enjoyed resting under his protection. Second, they cultivated the kind of relationship that allowed them to know each other intimately. The word taste expressed a knowledge of someone through intimate personal experience (cf. Ps. 34:8, “Taste and see that the Lord is good”). Third, the beloved appreciated the fact that Solomon let others see his love for her. As a banner (a military standard) was easily seen by the troops as they marched, so Solomon’s love for his beloved was easily seen by anyone who observed their relationship. He was not ashamed of her; instead he delighted in her and it was evident to others. One way he showed this was by taking her to his banquet hall (cf. “table” in Song 1:12) in the palace.

These three things—protection by her lover, intimacy with him, and obvious displays and expressions of love from him—are crucial factors that enable a woman to develop a sense of security and self-worth and thereby to enjoy a stable marriage.

The beloved had begun to experience these three things with Solomon during their courtship so it is no wonder that she became faint with love (2:5; cf. 5:8). The theme of lovesickness was common in ancient Near Eastern love poetry. So she expressed her desire for his strengthening and his embrace. She asks for Raisin cakes which were considered aphrodisiacs.

Since Song of Songs 2:5 is a request, verse 6 should probably be translated as a request also (“May his left arm be under my head, and may his right arm embrace me“) rather than a declarative statement.

2. The Refrain (2:7)

2:7. This refrain, spoken by the beloved to the daughter of Jerusalem means that sexual love cannot be forced or rushed but must be patiently waited for.  The very thought of being loved by so great a person left her faint, and she asked for apples and cakes of raisins so she could regain her strength. In 2:6, she anticipates the consummation of their marriage (“O that his left hand were under my head and his right hand embracing me!”), but she knows she must wait for the right time which is after her marriage.

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Sources:  Bible Exposition Commentary, Bible Knowledge Commentary, Life Application Study Notes

 

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Relationships-Passion-Marriage (Song of Solomon Introduction)

Posted on February 6, 2016 by dkoop

RPM-Poster copyIf your Relationship, Passion, or Marriage seems like it’s stranded on the side of the road, then this series will reignite the spark and get your motor running! God has given us a divine manual on romantic relationships in the Song of Solomon, taking us from a couple’s initial attraction through courtship, marriage, honeymoon, conflict, and deepening intimacy. These scriptures are insightful and (at times) explicit, but offer guidance toward the emotionally-satisfying relationships and marriage that God desires for you.  I hope you can join us!

In this post, I’d like to introduce the book, Song of Solomon and then begin to explain its poetic language.   It’s a moving story, drama, and poem that features the love dialogue between a simple Jewish maiden (the young woman) and her lover (Solomon, the king). They describe in intimate detail their feelings for each other and their longings to be together. Throughout the dialogue, sex and marriage are put in a God-given perspective.

The most explicit statements on sex in the Bible can be found in this book using very sensuous language. God created sex and intimacy, and they are holy and good when enjoyed within marriage. A husband and wife honor God when they love and enjoy each other.  The message of passion, sexuality and commitment represented here are greatly needed in our day in where confused and misleading attitudes about love and marriage are commonplace.

God created sex to be enjoyed is described in the context of a loving relationship between husband and wife.  Solomon probably wrote this “song” in his youth, before being overtaken by his own obsession with women, sex, and pleasure.
Introduction to the Song of Solomon

Author: Solomon, a son of King David, became king and was chosen by God to build the Temple in Jerusalem. God gave him extraordinary wisdom. Much of Solomon’s reign was characterized by wisdom and reverence for God although, toward the end of his life, he became proud and turned from God. Read about Solomon in 1 Kings 1-11. Solomon wrote and collected more than 3,000 proverbs (see the book of Proverbs) and over 1,000 songs, one of which is this book, Song of Songs.

Solomon frequently visited the various parts of his kingdom. One day, as he was visiting some royal vineyards in the north, his royal entourage came by surprise upon a beautiful peasant woman tending the vines. Embarrassed, she ran from them. But Solomon could not forget her. Later, disguised as a shepherd, he returned to the vineyards and won her love. Then he revealed his true identity and asked her to return to Jerusalem with him. Solomon and his beloved are being married in the palace as this book begins.

The Song of Songs is a series of seven poems describing the first meeting of Solomon and the peasant woman, their engagement, their wedding, their wedding night, and the growth of their marriage after the wedding.

Solomon understood the joys and virtues of married love and wrote this beautiful book. He ultimately had 700 wives and 300 concubines (1 Kings 11:3) and in so doing violated the law of the Lord (Deut. 17:17). He married many of his princess wives mainly to establish peaceful and profitable relations with their fathers.

Theme. There are many theological overtones to this book, but the major theme is the excitement and enjoyment of God’s gifts of sex, love, and marriage. Unlike some religions that condemn physical pleasures in general and sex in particular, both Jews and Christians see life and its physical pleasures as the gifts of God. This is especially true of marriage and the intimate love of husband and wife. Sex and marriage were taken very seriously in the Jewish culture. Engagement was a binding relationship that could be severed only by divorce, and premarital sin and adultery were dealt with severely. Weddings were joyful occasions that lasted a week, and the union was expected to last a lifetime. The Jews gladly accepted God’s gifts of sex and marriage and were not embarrassed to admit it.

Story. Unlike modern novels, this book doesn’t present an obvious story line, but it seems to have a definite plot which is “discovered” as you read the book carefully. The cast of characters is small: King Solomon; the lovely woman (the “Shulamite,” a feminine form of the name Solomon) who becomes his wife; the Shulamite’s brothers (1:5-6; 8:8-10); and “the daughters of Jerusalem” who function as a background chorus. It is the Shulamite who does most of the speaking in the book.

The Shulamite’s brothers were employed by Solomon to care for his vineyards, but they put their sister to work in them as well (8:11-14). King Solomon, disguised as a shepherd, visited his vineyards, saw the Shulamite, and fell in love with her (1:1-2:7). She pictures their times together as a rich banquet. The next spring, he came to her and proposed marriage, and she accepted, but he had to go away for a time, promising to come back. While he was absent, she dreamed about him (3:1-5). Then he returned and revealed that he was King Solomon. They married and consummated their marriage on their wedding night (3:6-5:1). The remainder of the book describes the celebration of their love as they experienced various adventures together.

This book has a great deal to teach us about God’s gift to men and women of the pleasures of love and sex. But it also presents the divine standards God has set for marriage, illustrating the joyful privileges and serious obligations husbands and wives have toward God and each other (see 1 Cor. 7:1-5; Eph. 5:22-33; 1 Peter 3:1-7). The Jews called the Song of Solomon “the Holy of Holies” of Scripture and wouldn’t allow it to be read by the young and immature.

The Song of Solomon uses many images from nature—gardens, fields, mountains, flocks, birds, flowers, spices, and animals—and the love of the man and woman fits right into this context. All nature is God’s gift to us and should be used for His glory, including human nature and the wonderful gift of sexuality. When a husband and wife have a beautiful and holy relationship, their whole world becomes beautiful and holy. Without dodging reality or defiling God’s gifts, the book deals quite frankly with human sexuality and shows how it can be sanctified and used for God’s glory. It is a book of metaphors and similes that uses many literary devices to show us the wonder and glory of divine and human love.

Interpretation. The Jewish rabbis saw the Song of Solomon as a book extolling human love and the proper use of sex in marriage. They also saw the book as an illustration of God’s love for His people Israel and His desire to share a deeper love with His people. Christian interpreters take the same approach, seeing in Song of Solomon the love relationship between Christ and His church.

Christ “Greater than Solomon.” Whatever Solomon was, had, or did, Jesus far surpassed him, for He is indeed “greater than Solomon” (Matt. 12:42). Solomon was known for his great wisdom (1 Kings 4:29), but Jesus Christ is the wisdom of God (1 Cor. 1:24), and in Him all of God’s wisdom dwells. Solomon was also known for his wealth (1 Kings 10:14-29), but in Jesus Christ there are “unsearchable riches” (Eph. 3:8; see Phil. 4:19). Solomon disobeyed God and married many wives, but Jesus obeyed the Father and died on the cross that He might have a spotless bride for all eternity (Eph. 5:25-27; Rev. 21:2-9). The relationship described between Solomon and the Shulamite pictures to us the love between Christ and His bride, and when Jesus returns and takes His people to heaven, the bride will become His wife. Solomon built a temple that was ultimately destroyed, but Jesus is building His temple, the church (Matt. 16:18), and it will glorify Him forever (Eph. 2:20-22).

I hope you can join us for this great series!    Darrell

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Sources:
The Bible Knowledge Commentary: An Exposition of the Scriptures by Dallas Seminary Faculty.

Bible Exposition Commentary (BE Series) – Old Testament – The Bible Exposition Commentary – Wisdom and Poetry.

Life Application Bible Study Notes

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